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writes:I am a gay man that has become good friends with a straight man. He knows I am gay but I think he is curious about his sexuality. He always says he is straight but he is sending me mixed signals. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2014): Is he sending mixed signals or are you subject to your own wishful thinking?
Mixed signals are bad signals. In sexuality, you don't leave anything to chance. If you want to know, wait until he's more direct.
He may be curious about his sexuality; but I think your underlying question is if he may be sexually-attracted to you?
Do you want to lose a friend playing on a hunch? Worse, because you're attracted to him, and he's not attracted to you?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (14 September 2014):
 Agree with honeypie
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (13 September 2014):
 Ig nore the mixed signal and treat him like he is purely straight. Why? Because IF he gets the nerve up to experiment he might realize that it's not what he wants after all and blame you for pursuing him.
There are PLENTY of people out there who are curious, but never act on it.
You are both OLD enough to know what you want and what you don't. My guess is he likes the idea and the banter, but he doesn't really want to do the deed.
Date men who are comfortable with their sexuality. Who knows what they want, not men who perhaps, maybe, sorta, could be wanting to try a walk on the wild side.....
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (13 September 2014):
I don't know if you should "do" anything. Sure, theoretically you might be able to get drunk with him and convince him to have a little fun with you, but what then? A lot of bi curious guys are so insecure about their sexuality and so afraid of being judged by those they know that even if they do get the courage to experiment, they want to pretend it never happened.
Just be his friend. Would a few hours of fun be worth losing his friendship because he couldn't bring himself to face you afterwards?
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