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writes:I've been in a relationship for over a year, but I travel weekly for work. My gf told me recently that she didn't like my traveling and couldn't do it (the relationship) anymore, she said she needed time. I love my job and am good at it. I fully intended on marrying this woman, but she's said in the past that she would not get married until the travel stopped. Suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): Do you absolutely have to travel? What kind of work is it? Because my ex-fiance pulled the same stunt about his second new found business of renting houses in another state. He told me blatantly one day that he would be going to Colorado for a month to rent houses to college students. No way! He should either find a way to take me because that is my hometown, or shorten it to a weekend trip because his other business is internet so he should figure out how to rent houses online. Plus, he would go down to Florida "for fun" for 2 months at a time-what a jerk! A relationship isn't a relationship unless you are actually spending time with one another-duh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): I guess I might need to clarify a little. I travel Monday-Friday and am home every weekend. I travel to different places, none of them especially exotic, but I'm not in a single place where relocation is an option. We "live" in the same city (it's my home address). It's not jealousy of other women (business trips are solo). She doesn't like the weekend relationship or not getting to do things during the week. Feeling that we're cramming everything into two days.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Hmmm...this is an odd request for a woman to make....unless of course, your travels come with a young attractive female co-worker. Then she might have cause for her demands. Also, if your "business" trips frequently take you to exotic locations and she feels left out while you are basking on the beach with plenty of viable women to pick from, should you decide you are "lonely" some night, miles away from home. Without knowing much about your business trips, it's hard to understand why any woman would make a demand such as this. On the surface it seems a bit unreasonable. But I suspect we aren't getting the whole story. If she is simply insecure about you being away from her, maybe she could accompany you on a few business trips and it'll put her mind at ease. I hope this helps you out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): What does she need time for? You've been together for a year so she knows what's involved as far as your job is concerned.
The choice is yours. I guess unless you get a job doing the same thing closer to home you'll be off to a rocky start in marriage if you were to try to continue doing the same routine.
If you got a job closer to home would she feel any different? Could you both move closer to your work or is she stuck where she is because of her work?
Some compromise might be in order!
Phil
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