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writes:I posted a thread here about a month or so ago titled “No Love for a Twenty Two Year Old Virgin” and I just wanted to let you all know I ‘m giving up. For now anyway. I just don’t understand how or why I’ve been put in this position but I hope at the very least somewhere out there God or whoever your deity of choice is, is getting a good laugh. I tried really hard last year to be a lot more proactive about meeting someone and finally getting the 800 lb. virginity gorilla off my back, but it’s like I have no luck whatsoever. I thought I was really close to. I met a girl through a friend back about the middle of December and we texted each other back and forth for a while we even went out and did some Christmas shopping together. So New Years Eve her, myself the friend we met though and her boyfriend made plans to get a couple of hotel rooms for the evening. I had everything set up, I had the hotel rooms the champagne everything. Then literally five minutes before I walk out the door our mutual friend calls to tell me she’s cancelled because she decided to out with some other people. I tried to text her to see what was up but she wouldn’t answer me. Four days later I finally get a text from her, but she just acted like nothing happened. The fact that I have no idea what the hell happened, is almost as bad as the fact that I didn’t get any……again. So that’s it, game over, off to the Middle East in a few weeks and don’t plan on see an attractive women until I take my two weeks leave in Australia in September. I guess I’ll just spend the next couple of month working out and hope I have better luck there. Losing my virginity to some chick in Sydney who I’ll never see again in my life isn’t exactly my first choice, but at this point I’ll take what I can get. It just pisses me off because I shouldn’t have to settle. I’m smart, attractive, and ambitious damn it! I should have been through three or four girls by this point :(
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reader, J.T.1988 +, writes (11 January 2011):
J.T.1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Yeah I would like to be in love for my first time to but over the last year the whole reality of the situation has really kind of sunk in and I guess I just sort of gave up on love. Falling in love takes time we are only given so much time on this planet and once it’s done, it’s done, no do over’s . I can’t go back and say “wow that was a stupid idea, I should have started earlier!” You know how you said you where afraid of becoming the crazy cat lady, well I’m afraid of becoming that 40 year old virgin. Beside it not just the social pressure to be having sex, I do actually have a sex drive and sometimes it drive my insane T.T!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Hey, I no exactly how you feel Bro. Infact I am also a 22 year old male virgin who is going through this delama as we spaek. In some ways if we have waited this long we should find the right women and make use of the situation but at the same time you are just as willing to settle for a stripper or hooker just to get the monkey that followed you all through out middle, high school, and 95 percent of college off your back and know that you will expierence sex. It is important to remember that society and hollywood sling out a LOT of bull on many issues which I am sure sex is one of them. Just think of how many people in the world never get laide so you already know that not EVERYONE has sex before their 20th birthday which hollywood movies about college make you believe. Whether you decide to settle for a deacent woman or a whore, I am not going to judge you. You're not alone other men your age and probably older are struggling too!
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reader, turquoise88 +, writes (8 January 2011):
welllll dude im just like you, 22 years old, the oldest in my group of friends and still a virgin, just a chick tho...soo you are not the only one! i personally am waiting for a real relationship and to be 'in love' with another person first. but i have no luck either, the guys that hit on me i can tell they just wanna hit it and quit it. and random sex with strangers or with people who dont give a crap about you is very unappealing to me. i just cant do that, so i wait. lol lame i know. sometimes i think im gonna turn into the crazy old cat lady :P anyways giving up your virginity a random chick sounds lame, you are better than that. you stayed virgin this long why be weak and crumble to just not be called a virgin anymore. and if you did so what your still not gonna be getting any on a regular basis, unless you keep having sex with random people that dont love/care about you or you finally get a girlfriend which youll probably regret not saving it for her...
anywayz dont be a fool!! and remember you are not the only 22 year old virgin. :)
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reader, J.T.1988 +, writes (8 January 2011):
J.T.1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell quite-echo I would have loved to meet someone like that but, it just never happened for me :(. However when I found out that I was going on this deployment I decided that I didn’t want to get into anything thing long term so I wouldn’t have to worry anybody leaving me or cheating on me while I am away, but I still felt like I really needed to lose my virginity because frankly I’m just sick and tired of it. Do you know how f**ked up it is to be the oldest in your group of friends and the only one who hasn’t done it yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Have a good time and it will be a good idea not to dwell on the whole virginity issue. At least you haven't had a bad experience yet, or any bad sex. That means that the road is clear for you to meet someone really nice and develop feelings for, and then the sex you do have will be much better.You haven't missed much. Teenage sex is fumbling and akward and sex for the sake of sex is just like carrying out a bodily function.So embrace the positives in your situation and look forward to the future.x
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