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writes:Too make a long story short. I am still in love with my ex. We have a 5 yr history but our relationship only lasted 11 months because of his family and my church family not approving. He has a baby on the way but his girlfriend doesn't do anything for him. He shows me signs that he still loves me but I don't know how to address it to him without sounding like I want to get back with him. Can you please give me some advice.
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reader, rcn +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Who's relationship is it? Is it yours or your families? Now the church family, I don't know about what church you attend, mine we teach not to judge people, but to help others in need. This is not their decision it's yours. If you're really in love, there should be nothing that stands in your way of being together. Now your unhappy and he may be as well. You choose to live unhappy by the acts of others, instead of being happy and attempting to get others to accept and realize the love you have for eachother.
If your church family interferes, let them know Jesus is the judge, no one living and breathing here has the ability to really judge others correctly. If they were looking out for you, the'd support your decision all though it may not be one they'd make themselves. They're not the one entering into the relationship, it's you. If they really don't know what's going on between you, what qualifies them to place judgement on you not being together.
You need to work on your personal strength and standing up for yourself. Our family works on studying the bible and living up to what's in there, as much as humanly possible. If someone tells me to change what i'm doing, first if it's not biblically correct, second if it's not morally correct and living up to my character and morals, I let them know that will not be an option.
Take care.
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