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female
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30-35,
*Mfan
writes:I am still in love with my ex-boyfriend. He was my first high school boyfriend, my first homecoming date, and my first "love." We dated from October 13, 2008 to January 18 or 19, 2009. 3 months and 5/6 days.He was the first one to say, "I love you." He was the first one wanting to say "I love you" aloud in person.I believe he fell hard for me. I fell hard for him. I was his first make-out and I also was his first "feel." We never had oral sex or sex. We only felt each other up, and I was his first.He broke up with me and said I wasn't the right girl for him. But before he broke up with me, he was talking about college and the future. Saying, what if we aren't together then. After he started talking about college, he acted weird around me. Then he asked his best friend out a month after he broke up with me. They lasted about 3 months. He ended it with her because he said she was too busy for a boyfriend and they never hung out.When he broke up with her, he texted me saying this, "I'm single..." Why would he tell me that he was single? Does that mean he likes me again?But, last night, he said, "I have little feelings for you, but I don't wanta relationship right now. I am not in the right mood."What does that mean?I told him, that I will wait for him. But I texted him back last night, and said please tell me if you want to date me again. But if you don't, please tell me so I am not waiting forever and keeping my hopes up.He wrote in my yearbook last week saying, "This year was great with you. The time we spent together. Sorry, if I ever hurt you. Thanks for always being there for me."What does that tell me?I don't get it. He is the only one I want. I went out with a guy after my ex-boyfriend broke up with me and that didn't work, because he was controlling, but I my ex-boyfriend was always on my mind. He is the only one I want. I don't want anyone else. What should I do? Oh, and he is one day older than I. And we are both one of the oldest students in our class. We get our license before any of our freshman friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Hi,
I was in a simuliar situation to you... ou just need try and be strong and patient and within time you'll be able to move on. I kind of underand why he informed you that he's single again just to give you hopes as he must know you still feel for him. I am now in a relationship with a great guy but still feel for my ex but its matter of time and the feeling will gradually fade and you'll eventually look back and sense that tiny emotion for him but then you'll understand that it was not mean't to be eventually....
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): I think your ex is telling you he doesn't want to date you right now, he is not in the mood. Telling you he was single he was letting you know he broke up with that girl, that is all. Don't read into something that isn't there.
It sounds to me like he wants to be friends by what he wrote in your yearbook. He seems like a pretty nice guy and he knows that he isn't going to keep seeing the same girl for any length of time because he is goal oriented and wants to get his education out of the way first before choosing one girl to be with all of the time...which is responsible of him.
I would not put pressure on him the way you did by asking him if he wants to date you again and should you wait around for him. The answer is no...don't wait around and focus on YOU and what your goals are.
You are young and you will meet someone special again later in your life when you are meant to be settling down and starting a family. Could it be him? Who knows. More than likely it will be someone you haven't met yet.
Be happy that you had your time with your ex and be happy that you will stay his friend if you just act your happy self and go on down the road...and enjoy being young and having fun with your friends and keep your mind on your studies, that is what you are really in school for first and foremost, to get an education not to worry over boyfriends and what they are up to and what they are thinking....he is what he is, don't over analyze it.
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