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anonymous
writes:Hello, I am a 17 year old girl who lost my virginity three years ago to my boyfriend. we were together for a year and a half and had sex about 6 or 7 times. I know its not a lot but i was very scared about pregnancy and in the end we decided that we weren't ready for the consequences if something happened, and we stopped having sex. The first time we slept together, i really felt nothing. I am a very small girl, can't even wear tampons, but i didnt feel him enter me at all (he wasnt very well endowed.) other than going very dry, which was uncomfortable, i didnt feel pain nor pleasure, and this was the same every time we had sex. i just thought he was bad or maybe sex just didnt work for me. well it has been 2.5 years since i had sex until last week. a close friend and i decided to see if we could help me out and help me enjoy sex. as we were getting ready, he used a vibrator on me and it was very uncomfortable and occasionally painful, no pleasure. we figured it was because it is hard plastic not flexible like skin. however, when he entered me i felt extreme pain and though we went very slow and tried holding positions and lubricant, i couldnt get past the pain. when we turned on the light, we realized i was bleeding and that he had broken my hymen. of course now i am wondering how is this possible? is something wrong with me? It was definitely my hymen that caused the pain and blood, afterwards he said he saw it when going down on me but thought he was mistaken. how can i have ridden horses, bikes, my ex boyfriend for goodness sakes! and not lose my virginity. any advice or comforting words are appreciated :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2011): Try not to worry, but i would check it out with a doctor just to be on the safe side. Us girls bleed for different reasons.Hope all is well.Spunky Monkey.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): I don't want to undermine you, but unless you're a doctor you don't know that it was definitely your hymen. You said you've had a lot of pain with sex... maybe you have an interior tear. It would explain the pain and blood, and would make sense since you're a 'small girl'.
Are you relaxed when having sex? After so many painful times your mind might not be letting you get to that relaxed/aroused stage.
I suggest you head to your doctor to get checked out. It might be a little embarrassing, but it'll definitely be worth it in the long run!
Good luck x
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reader, Ropa  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 If you were not feeling anything when you had sex with your boyfriend probably there was no penetration.some people bleed a couple of times the first time they have sex not that they still be vigins but probably it will still be tight down there.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 August 2011):
 I'm too confused to coment. Compforting words, "Don't worry, it'll be alright." "You can't help it,it's not your fault." Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): Yes, it is possible. Some girls have a very elastic or thick hymen. In extreme cases sex is impossible until a gynecologist cuts it open.
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