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*xlori14
writes:I have been married for 5 years, i got married at a really young age - 18, now i am 23. i love my husband and i really trust him but i have seen stuff that i can't stop thinking about, i have talked to him over and over about it but it seems i cant get over the fact he lied about it, he never goes out alone he always goes to work and its home on time but i feel like my heart beats faster every time he gets a text messge or email on his phone. i know its a co- worker or his family but i am still worried one day he will leave me.I had baby last year and lost my job, i don't feel so good about myself as right now, I feel down and I cry a lot since i had my baby and our marriage seems to be falling apart. i don't feel sexy any more, we can't go out to movies or have date nights. 1 we don't have the money, 2 we don't have babysitter which sucks, my husband cant see this... I think he thinks i don't trust him but it's not that at all. i think it was just having the baby and i had the baby so young, i cant deal with all cooking cleaing and taking care of baby at such a young age and never get a day off and he makes all the money. i have to ask him for money, i am ashamed of that i worked since i was 15 till i had my son, now i am a lonely stay at home mom. I love my husband and my life but i want to have more sex in life like go out to movies, chill with friends. i have no friends since when i got married i moved to Tx from florida, it sucked really bad, no friends, no family around me. i got to mommy playdate with my son but i cant seem to meet the right mom to be good friends with... any one like me out there who has to cook clean, look after a 17 month old baby who cries lot and wants to play all day with me? I cant even clean the house when he is wakened. help me please...?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 no of course you dont want to much from him, everyone needs support in a relationship especially when there are young children involved, you need to sit down and tell him this, ask him if he is unhappy be honest with each other how you both feel and decide between you what the best thing to do is so that you can over come your problems. Just be open and honest with each other its all you both can do.
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reader, xxlori14 +, writes (8 October 2010):
xxlori14 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwill i have to say this he worked 2 jobs for 5 years from 5am till 8 and when he got home he really to go to sleep wich he was right it was long day for him but since i had depression after my son was born some day i did not feel like doing any thing and he was mad he wane divorece me so i ask for help from his family and they made him change his mind and give me 2 chance so its been 2 months i cook more and clean the hole house and if the son make miss i clean up so fast befor he gets home so i worked only 2 day a week to job so he had more time at home with us but he still did not wane look after the baby will i was cooking or cleaing my son wood cry and say mam mama and he wood watch the its been better since he works lass so much i love the way he can holed meand take naps with me in after noons when he get home but he never talks to me tell me how he feels about our life i feel like he is not happy i feel like he unhappy in life and just liveing with Bc we had baby i wane him to wane me and love me like he did when i was 18 do you guys think i wane to much from him ....
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (6 October 2010):
 Yes its really unfair that you should be pushed into a corner with a massive amount of emotions crashing into you!HE should definitely take some time to watch after the baby!You just cant do everything.Also if he loves you then it shouldn't be a problem asking for money I mean what else are you suppose to do?Honesty is right if you dont have the money then just make a little special romantic dinner at home or a picnic outside etc.
I hope all the best for you because I can only imagen being a mother is probably the hardest job in the world especially if you dont have any physical or emotional support!
My best bet would be to try and rekindle whatever you have lost so that he brings to the table willingly and not forced!
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (5 October 2010):
Ok im not in your situation so i can only imagine how you are feeling and am sure its not very nice. Have you thought about visiting your doctor as it sounds like you might have depression and your doctor is there to help. If you and your partner cant afford to go out then maybe try and have romantic nights in once the baby is in bed light some candles and make a romantic dinner. Are there any evening classes around you that you could join for a hobby and ask your husband to babysit some evenings as this will get you out of the house and meeting new people. But i do recommend that you go and visit your doctor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): You need to tell him you want to spend more time together or that you need more breaks from looking after the baby because it sounds ridiculous that you should be this way and him not to help.
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