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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:me and dh decided that i would stay home with our son and take care of him and the house i keep the house clean have supper on the table when he walks threw the door and i do everything for my son when dh gets home he sits in front of the tv everynight until its time to go to bedwhen we get into fights he says im lazy that makes me so mad my day starts at 6am and ends around midnight dh does nothing but work doesnt help with our son at all our sons 2 and hes never changed a diaperwell 2 weeks ago he got paid on friday and he blew almost his whole check and he gets paid every two weeks well we didnt pay any bills everytime he gets paid we pay our rent and 2 bills and we do finewell since this week he has all the bills b/c he spent money on beer instead of paying them he wants to tell me to get a job and cusses me out tells me im lazy but wont watch our son while i work and doesnt want a stranger to watch himdh drinks everyweekend and one night i told him i was going to go get a job and he said no your staying home with ds and said he will take our son to his moms so she can watch him and he will hang out w/friends and one other night he was drunk and said i will be paying all the bills with my paycheck and he will keep all his money what would you do i love him but he wont make his mind up ewwwwwwww men i will do anything to make him and our son happy wiether i get a job or stay home doesnt matter to me
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (14 June 2010):
 You don't happen to live in the Pennsylvania coal regions, do you? Purely sardonic, rhetorical question, really. I don't need to know that, your sitch is just *so* the norm for that area.
I'd say you have a garden variety alcohol-abuser on your hands,if not worse.
When your rent/bills go unpaid due to beer-drinking that's a screaming red flag that there's a problem and it's the drinking, but I'm betting you already know this.
Abdication of personal responsibility and accountability are two more major indicators.
Given everything you've stated here, I suggest you tell this bum to get his sozzled ass in AA, dry out and remain that way or you and your son are history, *then* he can go hang out w/friends, uninmpeded.
Don't make idle threats, don't make excuses for him. Just do it. One chance: Dry-out or we're gone. And make good on it. Good luck!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 June 2010):
 Tell me what exactly do you love about this guy?
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