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writes:Me and my GF were having sex last night and I slipped in to the wrong hole. Well she winced at first but didn't yell or object too strongly, so I rolled with the punches and continued in her rear. I thought it was great and she seemed to enjoy it for the most part.However, she won't talk to me today and when I asked why she said she felt violated. I told her the initial penetration was an accident, but seeing she didn't object I continued on thinking she may have actually liked it. She said I was full of it and bust out of the house to work.What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, stellaforstar  +, writes (4 April 2010):
 It can happen by accident. When a person is aroused they are hopefully relaxed and anyway, sometimes you have to do a little maneuvering in certain positions to get things going and accidents do happen...
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (3 April 2010):
 anal is very normal and many couples do it, however only when they are comfortbale with each other. i do understand how you accidently penetrated her anus at first however i feel she let you continue has she loves and cares about you and wanted your needs satisfied no matter how violated she felt.give her time and explain your situation.good luck.
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 I agree with Strontiumdog. How the hell do you accidentally penetrate her anus with your penis? I could be wrong but I sense that you did it without asking because you wanted to try anal sex but you were afraid she wouldn't like it, and therefore you didn't ask. And quit insisting it was an accident because that dog ain't gonna hunt. You just did it. Real slick. Imagine how you would feel if she slipped a dildo into YOUR anus without your consent. You'd feel violated.
You're in the doghouse and the other aunts are correct in saying that you seriously need to make this up to her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): Where did I say I just rolled over an fell asleep? I am not like that. I do spoon with my woman. Sometimes we chat about things, sometimes we sit in silence, enjoying the moment. But I think I only pulled the sleep thing ONCE in my entire relationship with her and that was a night where we were both drunk and had a late night roll, both just wanted to sleep afterwords. I guess since Tisha suggested it, you just assume that I fell asleep.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 OMG what is it with guys and anal sex? What's wrong with the hole that's actually provided for sex???
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Did you check to see if she had an orgasm? Or do you just kind of hope she does but don't really help her out? And what did you do after this 'whoops' moment? Fall asleep right after your pleasure? Did you check to make sure she was okay? Did you ask her if she needed anything? Did you cuddle her and hold her? Or did you just kind of treat her like blow up doll and do your thing and roll over and go to sleep, while she lay in the dark crying?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): she didn't object meaning she didn't try to push me away or anything. She had a little moaning which sounded of slight discomfort, as if she was adjusting, but never said stop or anything. She never tried to pull away at all. After a short bit those moans sounded more from pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): Oh come on... you expect us to believe you accidentally slipped from her vagina to her anus and she didn't flinch or jump out of bed?? Really??
I could see that happen if you were well lubricated and she was drunk. She might have tolerated it while buzzed, but probably felt the pain down below after sobering up.
Let's face it guys, no girls like anal sex and if you've had it once, why would you want it again? It is smelly, dirty, and lacks sensitivity like a vagina.
You better rest your tongue. You have some serious make up sex ahead of you. Her pleasure not yours
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): Bloody hell how do you do that by accident!? As someone mentioned above, what lubricant were you using?! To be honest i'm not suprised she felt violated! Just grovel like you've never done before and try your best to make it up to her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2010): We've done anal stimulation before with fingers, so it's not as if she has a "virgin" anus. On the same time it isn't loose either. When it slipped in, it was full tilt, probably just the tip. At which point I paused, then slowly proceeded forward and built up speed. She did moan after a short while, which made me feel she was enjoying it, but I guess I was wrong.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 April 2010):
 What kind of industrial strength lubricant do you use? Accidently "slipping" into her anus? My anus. But the other aunts/uncles are right, you have some major sucking up to do, get busy.
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reader, raiders +, writes (1 April 2010):
 buy her flowers and chocolates give her a big kiss apologize to her! Next time when its something so personal ask her first so that she doesn't feel violated don't just assume. Tip to the poster the face expression should have told you to stop look at her face next time poor thing you probably hurt her.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Well that's not fair.
Yes, you should have actually asked her if you could continue instead of making the assumption, but she should have said something if she wanted you to stop.
I doesn't seem fair that she is so mad at you for continueing when she didn't ask you to stop.
But it's just a fight. It'll blow over.
If i were you, I would apologize for not verbally asking if it was ok, but explain to her that I could only know she wanted me to stop if she told me to.
Tell her you won't ever let it happen again and you weren't trying to violate her becauase you respect her and love her (I assume you love her?) and you will be very careful in the future.
I'm sure that in time, this will settle down. Don't worry!
~sy
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reader, stellaforstar +, writes (1 April 2010):
Ok, this one is so much more common than you'd think. Especially when drunk lol. It has happened to me and to quite a few of my girlfriends. It hurts and gives the girl a bit of a fright but if it was a genuine mistake and you weren't being a perve then she should have just laughed it off. If she didn't stop you last night but won't talk to you today she is embarrassed and probably feels a little weird. You have to tell her that it was an accident in the first place and since she didn't tell you to stop (which is the lovers key to success... communication) you thought she was enjoying it. Tell her in no uncertain terms that if she was unhappy with it then you need never do it again and that you love her and you are happy to be having sex with her any way she wants. Don't let her make you feel guilty or wrong, experimentation is natural in loving relationships and if someone doesn't like it they have to speak up otherwise you have to assume they're liking it as much as you. All the best my friend. If you are lucky enough to talk your way out of this little slip lol just be sure not to make the same mistake again!
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