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writes:what do you think about a son-in-law controlling his father-in-laws date life? the father-in-law fears that the son-in-law will take it out on his daughter when he finds out that the father-in-law is back with his girlfriend after being broken up for a short while. i know that the inhertience is one issue but again the son-in-law is a control freake. he wants to control even his own mothers life and he will not allow my bf's daughter to get the mail out of the mail box. one person said that this son-in-law is a "hot head". this son-in-law is about 36 years old and his father-in-law is 69 years old. i am having a very hard time with this because he still hides me because he knows it is going to be a royal battle when he does tell his daughter and son-in-law. please tell me what you think of this situation. my family thinks it is ridiculous that a man of this age allows this low class individual to control his life. thanks!!once before when we broke up i believe that his daughter and son-in-law gave him an ultamaium and most likely said that if you keep on dating her, we will not ever come to see you or let the grandchildren see you. i know that this would never happen because they are very dependent on this man. their bark if much louder that their bite but they have put the fear in this man. he is scared to death to tell them. he told me that if the shoe was on the other foot, he would be interested in how long it would take me to tell my children and i told him that this would never happen because my children do not control my life and i don't control theirs.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2007): Yeah it sounds like the father in law is using the son in law as an excuse to not get too close to you as someone below said. But the point is that if you are his girl I think that you should be his number one. That doesn't necessarily mean that his inheritance should be all yours. I personally think that the bulk of it belongs to his children. Especially if he is not that rich. Because if he were really rich, and his kids only got a tiny fraction they would still be well off forever. But if he is not that rich then he really should keep his small wealth in the family. After my grandma died, my dad gave all of the jewelry she had owned to his wife at the time. Me and my sis were so pissed. My grandma had always intended for us to have it to keep it in the family. Well eventually my dad divorced that woman and he really regrets doing that. He knows we are so disappointed in him. It's very disappointing. But it's not worth arguing about. I think he learned his lesson.
It is easy to point fingers but the problem really isn't the son in law but it is your boyfriend. If he had any class himself I am sure he wouldn't allow his children to behave this way and he certainly would not allow his daughter to marry a guy like that. Don't be mad at them. Your bf is the one who is supposed to love and protect you. If you don't think he is doing that then you should consider getting a new bf. But I do disagree about the inheritance thing. I think that should stay in the family.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 The father in law needs to find his balls, and live his own life. It is up to HIM who gets the inheritance, and if the son in law is worried (and I understand why he should be),get a will written up once and for all.
"Take it out on his daughter"...why? Is he an abusive asshole? If so, then he should get nothing. If she is stupid enough to stay with an asshole, she should get nothing too.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (5 October 2007):
Either your bf is a wimp or he is using the inlaws as an excuse to keep you from getting too close.
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