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writes: Hi, my problem is that basically I have been going out with my girlfriend for nearly two years. We have a great relationship and are like best friends, we can spent weeks together without getting bored. We are both comfortable with the prospect of marriage and trust each other completely although she does get irritated if I mention any girl. However I can read mens' mags with her and rate girls out of ten and she is OK with that. OK, you get the picture. I have blabbed on enough.Basically what the problem is, is that I am still attracted to other girls and feel tempted to talk to them amongst other things. This is probably the typical bloke problem, but I do really love her and I have never, ever cheated on her, not even touched another girl and I never will while I am with her because I do have my morals and ethics etc... Sometimes I feel like I do want to break up with her on good terms but I know she won't be able to handle it. Plus she's done so much for me, it would probably look like I used her if I break up. I know I can't go out with her and see other girls and I do not intend to, but what if I leave her and it's a case of 'you dont know what you got til its gone'? thank you for your time. yours sincerely Jags
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Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A reader, Mike, writes (24 March 2005): Hey Jags,Wow! What do you do in this situation. I've said it before, and I will say it again... just be honest. First of all, tell her how you feel about her, let her know that you love her. Now is the hard part... no matter whether you are married to the perfect girl or not, it is in your nature to flirt with other girls (and yes, check them out). I don't know a single guy who doesn't see a "hot" girl every now and then and be like, I wonder what...However, the way you are feeling right now isn't good for your relationship either. Because if you don't "shop around" you will always wonder what else is out there.Here is the best advice I can give you...Again, tell her how you feel, but also tell her that you want to be sure she is the one... tell her you need a quick break, to see what else is out there. Don't expect her to be very happy, or even ok with it. My best advice is just tell her that you need to be sure. Just make sure when you tell her that you are honest, and make sure she knows you need to talk to her so that it is not a complete shock. Again, honesty is the most important thing, tell her how you feel.Anyways, Good Luck. It sounds like you two have a good thing going... and with 2 years under your belt this will be a huge blow in your relationship, but it may be something you need to do. Just be careful, because it sounds like she is really special, and the right person is really hard to find (and even harder to let go).God Bless,Mike
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