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writes:i hope I don't sound big headed but I feel as though I am quite a funny person which is one of the things I like about myself and makes me feel slightly more confident , I always seem to make someone laugh , when im in a group of people im normally the one that is the funniest and people always say im funny . Despite this ive been told I have a dry sense of humour and im unsure of whether this a good or bad thing . a lot of people don't always know when im joking or not , normally the people who find me funny are the ones who know when I am joking or not as a result of this I think people don't always like me ,are confused by me and just find me weird as they don't seem to understand why im saying what im saying and the reason behind the joke . people have also said im quite deadpan in my delivery and I think because I am a witty person with a clever sense of humour I find it hard to talk to people . id just live advice on whether a dry sense of humour is good or not , how to tone it down and how to try to make sure people understand when im joking or not so that I find it easier to talk to people . also is it bad if I think I am funny person as I don't want to sound like I have a big ego also what can I do to develop my humour as comedy and humour is something I am interested in and would like to know more about it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 August 2018):
 I'd say stick to the comedy around people who know you and your sense of humor. NOT that you can't crack one here and there, but dry humor or sarcasm is often "misunderstood" as being rude or offensive (even if you crack a self-deprecating jokes or jokes about events/places not people).
I have to bite my tongue quite a lot. Because I too have a great fondness for sarcasm. People who knows me and knows me well, get it - strangers? Not so much. So I moderate myself depending on who I am around.
Also if part of your humor is making fun of others... It might not be as hilarious as you think. Especially if you hit the nail on the head more often than not.
Everything in moderation, dear OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2018): I know what you mean, as it is said,every joke hides behind it some truth and I think that is what annoys the others. That you are pointing to there faults via a joke. What to do? You can try to think twice before you make a joke. Hesitate before you pass a remark. As you grow older and wiser you will overcome this trait. Dont worry you will be ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2018): Lets look at this:
"I think people don't always like me ,are confused by me and just find me weird as they don't seem to understand why im saying what im saying and the reason behind the joke . people have also said im quite deadpan in my delivery and I think because I am a witty person with a clever sense of humour I find it hard to talk to people."
Nervous or defensive humor is usually a hit or miss. I read your post a couple of times. Although you find "yourself" funny and you think it gives you confidence; others notice you use it to hide behind. Maybe you have bad-timing and delivery. If people don't understand it, that might be because your timing or brand of humor is inappropriate. Ever considered not trying to be funny so much? Just chill?
It's nice to have a good wit. You have to know when to throw it in, and you also have to size-up your crowd. Serious-minded people don't always react to humor. They either deplore the humor, or the person. If you hangout with easy-going lay-back folks; they'll laugh to humor you and to be kind. They don't necessarily have to find you funny. If it's what you want them to say; they'll say it to be polite. They can tell you're trying. They just wish you'd not try so hard!
I believe they just want you to cool-it with the humor sometimes. It might come-off as snark or sarcasm. Nobody likes being the brunt of your jokes. Great way to make enemies! It doesn't go-over for everybody; and you should take their cue and have a clue about it.
Check-out some local comedy clubs; and if you get to talk to the performers, ask questions. Observe! One thing you'll learn about people these days, they don't appreciate being your captive-audience! While you try-out a bombing comedy-routine. If you're good, you don't get mixed-reviews. You get all laughs!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (17 August 2018):
 Everyone likes and understands different types of humour. Learn not to take it to heart and when to clarify that you're joking, or when the audience is the wrong type for a dry joke.
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