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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. I love him very much but seem to dislike him at the same time. For a long time now, I keep getting into fights with him for no reason (my fault) and keep breaking up with him. The thing is, I've always imagined our future as being together and I know he's a great boyfriend. Every time I think of leaving him I cry. The main things that bother me about him is that he's boring, my social life since I've been with him has gone downhill, he's dorky and his appearance sometimes turns me off. However, I feel he's the only person who's shown me what love is and we do have great times together. He always tells me he wants to marry me. Sometimes I feel so in love with him and at other times I wonder why I'm with him.I should mention I'm also having other emotional issues. I've been feeling very down for over a year now and have recently parted ways with most of my friends. I also have a terrible relationship with my parents and barely communicate with them. I don't know if this relationship problem stems from itself or just my troubled self for no good reason. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 September 2011):
 Usually I find when someone has feelings that they want to break up with someone well then there is usually good reason behind it and it means that there is something lacking in the relationship. You say your social life has went down hill and I guess you are starting to resent your boyfriend for this deep down. OK so his social life is not as active as yours but this shouldn't stop you from going out and enjoying yourself without him. Just because you are in a relationship doesn't mean that you cannot enjoy a good social life outside of it. Try putting your life back together again because it is to short. Talk to ex friends and try and sort out the problems that made you part your way. Put in an effort to hang out with friends and enjoy your life.
You need to look at your relationship properly and make sure it is what you want. Write down the pros and cons and ask yourself can the negatives be fixed. Talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and see how he is feeling about the relationship. If you both are to different for each other well then it might be best to part ways and find someone who enjoys the same things as you do.
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