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*xckingbitch11
writes:i have a thing with this guy; were like really close and all but he wont ask me out cause i'm moving in august =/ and we have phone sex sometimes but now that we started to hang out more we get more "physical" . if you know what i mean. i really want to . but it almost feels like an in the moment thing. and something i might regret later. help! should i just do it. er not idkk. ughh helpp!thanks muchh :)
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 It sounds like you want - but at the same time, you're unsure.
Don't do it if you're not absolutely positive that you want to sleep with him, you'll only feel regret when you move.
Spend more time with him and fool around a bit if you choose. If later in the summer, you decide to have sex with him before you leave and you're sure - Go right on ahead.
(Please tell me, you're the legal age of consent..)
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 I used to agonise over the 'do I don't I thing'.
It sounds like you are only one step away from sex to me. I would say if you have done 'everything but' then you are no doubt OK with having full sex; and this is only a matter of time.
You could look back in years to come and find you have had 'fun' with one or two guys, and wonder or regret why you didn't on this occasion. By the sounds of it, if you don't have the fun sexual encounters with this guy, it won't be long before you get the chance to again; either later in the year, or the start of next year.
Different experiences are part of life for everybody. I suspect that your current situation is testing your 'views and morals'. If you were 100% against any form of casual sex, or sex for fun with a guy whom you know it wont' go anywhere with.... You wouldn't be in this quandry.
As long as you both know what you are doing, and don't expect things to last between you, you won't be hurt. Above all use condoms if you are going ahead.
In life there are often choices between being spontaneous, and living for the here and now, which to some would be seen as reckless. Or be serious, have morals, and be seen by others as 'straight laced'. Don't worry about what others think, life's too short, if you are doing something you want at the time.
In life we often regret things we have not done, rather than things we have.
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