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writes:Ongoing dumb boyfriend issue. Hi, my ex has been my ex for about a year now. And for that year he's been with another girl. But during that year he would call and tell me that he loved me, or that he missed me, he did it 3 times while he was with her. When i confront him about it, he says he had been drinking. He broke up with her about a month ago, called me and said he had been thinking about calling me for a long time, but that his family told him to leave me alone. That I'm a great girl and that he's just going to string me along again. But he ignored them and contacted me anyway. We saw each other and spent some time together, and it was like we never broke up. He talked about not knowing why he ever broke up with me and how we should tell his family that we were going to give it a try. He also dropped the bomb on me that he was deploying again in a month. 1 day went by, and then another, and I didn't hear from him. So I tried texting and calling, and he never called back, just ignored me. That was about a month ago. I wrote him a letter, saying that I was mad at him, that I don't know why he keeps doing this, and he wrote me back, "I don't think this is something we should type back and forth to each other, do you want me to call you." At first I said yes, then I renegged and wrote back no. I told him I would not contact him again, asked him not to contact me, and that it is what it is and everything is done. His response, "wtf???" and I haven't written him back since, it's been about 2 weeks. My question I guess is...what happens now? Will he try again or is this done? Why do guys do this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 I think that he will probably try again somewhere down the line. He is a very confused man, he knows being in a relationship with you is just not what he really wants, but there is something about you that he just cannot let go off, so he just keeps messing you about. Don't take him back again because he will never settle down with you completely. He will only ever keep hurting you because he knows he does not want to be committed to you but he does not know why he keeps wanting to contact you. It is as if he likes to know that he still has you as an option when nothing else turns out. Don't let him keep hurting you. Don't ever contact him again and if he tries to contact you ignore him and show him that you do not need him in your life.
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Leave this guy alone and make sure he leaves you alone. This guy is messing with your head and that's all he's going to do. He's had several chances to make it work, but he's done nothing. So move on and don't let him play any more games with you.
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