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writes: Is being a mother worth it?I have a son and honestly I can't really say I love him. I mean you raise them, they become teenagers and think you're stupid, and then they grow up and move out and get married and you're left in the cold.Whats so exciting about seeing him get married knowing that now he won't ever be there for you because he has a wife. Is that why we raise them, so they can eventually dump us and break our hearts.So what is so rewarding about being a mother again? I know I sound bitter but I just can't get over this insecurity of mine. Reply to this Question
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reader, carebear  +, writes (21 June 2006):
 who said having kids was easy lol dry your eys bite your toungue and sit back and enjoy your boy.hopefully you have raised a good son that will make a great husband give them time together offer inviting them for dinner one night so they don't have to rush home and cook so you can catch up with them try to get on with his wife( sometimes not easy) but the more you try the more she will like you ask about her family things like that. is this your only child? if so never let a week go past without being in contact (i don't mean everyday)and never ever say you don't know if you love him anymore as a mothers love should be unconditional and you might become a granny soon now that's a different story altogether lol (join the club)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2006): Well... You don't seem to connect with your son at all. I am quite close with my mom, though some arguments do arise from time to time. My parents weren't supportive of me when I was growing up because they didn't know how to and didn't know what was really going on with me. They clothed, fed, and sheltered me, and of course cared and loved me. As I went through my youth and teens, I didn't think about responsibility and worth much and had a lot of misunderstandings with my family.
Fortunately after HS, with many personal experiences in business, friendships, relationships, failures, successes, etc, I learned to appreciate my mom and my dad, for what they have done for themselves, their parents and siblings, the experiences they've gone through and what they've done for me and my bro.
A few years ago, I found duty and responsibility. I see my father as my king and my mom as my mom... 8] I think often that one day, if and when my parents pass from this lifetime, I will build chinese-style temples to honor them both. I will write poetry to remember their deeds as my parents. I love them with all of my heart, though I may rebel at times. [chuckle] I'm a bit stubborn and cold sometimes, but my heart is very warm towards them. Never any grudges.
My mom gets jealous of my gf's, but I always through action, assure my mom that she is indeed my mommy... 8]
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reader, Eddiezbabygurl67 +, writes (20 June 2006):
 hey now hey now chicky, c'mon, im one of those teens who thinks parents are stupid,...well..used to....my mom died in 2004 and i just live with my dad...and he had a serious drug problem and i made him feel like i hated him and i even told him I DONT HATE YOU I HATE WHAT THOSE DRUGS DO TO YOU and he's kinda straighting up, i see it, and its like im a parent, NOT REALLY but ina weird way, i feel like im bein Mom, orsomething, i see him changing and trying everyday and some kids out there do hate their parents, some, cant live without em, i stand between the two, it really is worth it!! believe me!! i dunno why you should, but i'd love to be a mother, without the whole giving birth and being prego ya know, lol....what you have to do is raise him to be one of the kids who always comes back and says "HEY MOM I MISSED YOU" and he was only gone for like..a day or 2 ya know, raise him the way you want him to be and he'll be that way, but stick with this "i dont know if i luv him cuz hes just gonna move on and be an adult in life anyway so why bother" attitude and you'll be flushin it down the hole!!! and you'd regret it....horribly, i'd say turn him into a HARDCORE MOMMA'Z BOY ya know, but thats just me and im only 16, i hope i can help, i really like to help people, i have an advise hour at school, its my extra class and i asked if i could have room in the office and kids can come in,...a free couseling session with students at my school...i get to know them and find out what they like to do andjust help them through stuff they like and they are very impressed..the school wants to actually PAY ME to do this because apparently since i've been doing this academic levels for the school have raised and they think that if the students just have someone totalk to then they can focus more which i truely believe, but yeah i really hope everything will work out between you and your son...IT IS TOOOOOTALLY WORTH BEING MOTHER! open your eyes to life you created its spectacular I KNOW I CANT WAIT! :) hope i helped a teeny tiny bit atleast :) your friend Jess
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