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writes:Well i'am planning on going out with this girl and i was wondering...what would be the best place to go out on a first date? My plans where to go to a romantic french restaurant, that got amazing reviews with an amazing chief or so it has been said. Is this too much or would a movie and a dinner work or just a plain dinner, would i come out as creepy if i did this, would the girl think that i would be trying to show off or something of the sort? Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 July 2012):
 You didn't mention how you met her, but Abella is on the right track here. What do you know of her?
KNOWLEDGE IS POWER.
This means, you have to know what lights her up. If she's not into fancy restaurants and more into the grilled fare or a good hole-in-the-wall Chinese restaurant, how would you know?
Also, if you were armed with the fact that she *loves* art more than anything, what would you do then? Have you asked her out and she's said yes already? First of all, congratulations, and second of all, tailor the date to what lights her up!
If you haven't asked her out, then good! Get to know what she loves! Does she love sports? Does she love art? Does she love music? Does she love being active? Is she health/organic food minded, or does she loves a good thick Ribeye?
Find out what lights her up, and you'll have the ammo to create the date that turns her into putty in your hands, figuratively speaking (and literally down the road! :)).
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): "Some varied ideas sought, please, on ideas for a first date to ensure it is good?"Agree with consensus, for a first date better to play down the romance in favor of fun and compatability. Get to know her better, as things progress you'll know what HER idea of a romantic evening entails and therefore you'll learn how to sweep her off her feet in the way SHE's been dreaming. "would i come out as creepy if i did this, would the girl think that i would be trying to show off or something of the sort?"Probably no to both questions, but as you don't yet know her well enough to be sure best to be cautious, that's why I agree with previous advice. When in doubt, underplay the romance and focus on enjoying each other's company. As Abella says keep it simple and follow her lead. Good luck and let us know how it goes. As an admittedly out-of-touch old fart, I'm heartened to know that being a gentleman hasn't gone completely out of style. Congrats to your parents for raising you to respect women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): As sweet as that sounds and the extent youre willing to go through... Know the girl better before you do something that romantic. What youre wanting to do is something that should wait, just to be sure you actually this girl and youve left her wanting more. teehee. Just go for a walk and talk for a while, find out what she likes and dislikes. best of luck,Alice
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (5 July 2012):
 Me personally, I wouldn't want the super romantic restaurant, first time out, but every girls taste is different. I've just found that a relaxed setting makes it a lot easier to get to know someone, and there are no pretenses or expectations. I would keep it relaxed and fun, you can't go wrong with dinner and a movie.
Take her to a nice casual dinning restart, some place with a wide variety on the menu. While you're at dinner, you can find out what kind of movie she might like to see. If you have to wait for the movie to start, that's a good time to sit and get to know each other, more. If things are going really well, maybe after the movie you can go somewhere and have some coffee or desert.
Just my thoughts, but whatever you decide to do, I hope you have a really good time. :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (5 July 2012):
 Keep it simple and don't over do it with anything too extravagant and over the top. Otherwise it will be intimidating.
Start as you mean to go on.
Try to make it FUN
And interesting.
What is she interested in?
What are her likes and dislikes?
But if you try too hard it is a turn off.
Your first date is a getting to know her and develop some trust.
She should be most interested in you and what makes you tick and to find out a little more about your interests.
And you should have a similar mindset.
I think the French restaurant with amazing reviews is going one step too far. That is more like an important anniversary dinner.
And not knowing exactly where you are it is hard to say.
If two people have some chemistry going then a bicycle ride into the hills can be a first date, as can a day at the beach, or even lunch in the school cafeteria can still be a first date.
You are there to get to know each other in a nice environment and not in a place where all your other friends are looking on from afar. (so that cuts out the places you and your friends go, usually, to hang out)
Ask her some 'open questions' that start with What or How to get her to open up and tell you more about what is important to her. Build the trust with her and don't be too pushy on a first date.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2012): I know its often thought that its the guys job to do the date arrangements and maybe surprise the girl to sweep her off her feet, but maybe its best to ask her what she would like to do for the first date. If you know from her lips what she would like, then you can't go far wrong. But any of the above ideas you mentioned I'm sure wouldn't offend her lol.
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