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writes:Ok this is sort of a repost and really hope it gets posted cuz i really need help! I wrote up yesterday and and only got one answer who said they didnt' really undrstand it so i'm reposting to make it mroe understandable so hope you can help!! Right as i said in my original post(i'll put the link at the end of this message) i feel madly in love with a guy for the first time who's on my course. i really thought he liked me cuz he used to stare at me and look at me a lot and also just showed loads of other signs in general. But not long after all this started a question was asked to the lad i like when the whole class was in the library and i'm sure he answered with my name and then one of them said something like "arrrr" and laughed. After that i noticed people were saying stuff like he likes you best and accusing me of liking him but now i know he doesn't like me in that way i see they could have just been doing it to wind me up outta spite. Anyway after that they just started being a bit nasty to me - its just basically verbal bullying(the teachers know but it still goes on a bit) and although he does laugh along with them he doesn't join in as much. So with all this going on and him staring at me more and more i decided to get my friend to sorta try and find out if he liked me. Now my mate started off by just asking what do you think of her, cuz he's noticed the other picks on me alot and stuff and he just willingly gave us the info without even saying do you have feelings for her or do you like her. Because he said how he will never let anyone down or backstab them and then said "the thing is i don't have feelings for her but i'm pretty sure thats not what your trying to say". So that makes us think he knew because we didn't even ask that really. i have seen the covnersation so i know everything that was said! Thing is he has promised not to tell anyone about this he does still look at me sometimes and stare at me, now he looks at people alot in general but in the past they have been deep stares- eye to eye and he has still done that since just not as much. Now heres where i'm confused because could it be that somewhere along the lines he could have feelings for me but just didnt want admit it. Because really he just gave us the info and told us without us even asking but then again if the others were just making me think he liked me outta spite and stuff then surely he would have known to and he isn't the type of guy to do that so surely the signs would have stopped and he wouldn't have continued to stare at me and stuff right? So why would he just come out and say i don't have feelings for her if he didn't already know! And also if he kenw anyway wouldn't the signs have stopped? i'm just going round in circles actually because they still do hint a little bit but also at the same time if they are being nasty to me then he does laugh along soemtimes and stuff. So what do you think does he have feelings for me but just doesn't want to admit it?Although we're acting like nothings happened it is really hard to be around him, not so much on my own or if im just with him and the lads because he's nice then and ok with me and stuff but then again he is with anyone because he's a nice guy. But surely it must have crossed his mind if he just willingly said he didn't have feelings for me? I don't know its just a sensation i get that theres more to it and also when he's around me! Or is that just because i like him so much? He did say when my friend told him i liked him he said "well to be honest i'm choosing to stay single so won't go out with her but you won't tell her that will ya?" and so im so confused, is it just the fact i like him so much that i think theres more to this or isn't there? Did he jsut not want to admit it? The staring still goes on but just not as much and stuff so i'm just so confused please help!! Also after this how can i start to move on- i have to see him everyday and spend time with him so how can i just see him as a friend and try to just become better friends with him because with him joining in with the other i don't think he really likes me at all but i don't really know? Like other people make him laugh and when i try to do that it doesn't work and they just think i'm stupid because they don't like me!The link to my previous question http://www.dearcupid.org/question/does-he-really-not-have-feelings-for-me.html - its pretty much the same stuff!
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reader, tiiny  +, writes (11 July 2009):
Guys love it when you are straight up with them...he's probably thinking the same thing u are (if u like him or not) soo just ask. Its not going to be the end of the world if he doesn't...I'm sure he does though
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reader, growing  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 IT was just the same. so why you want people to go through this big story once again..
yestreday also it was me who actually, asked for shorter version of your story but gals are mad when they are infactuated with guys.crazy!!
lemme breathe first
ahhh okkk
Why you don't talk directly to him???????????
I don't think you are one of those shy gals..so just go and ask him out.
whats so scary about this???
Is it sumthing unusual that you will do by sharing your feelings with him???
If you like him ,then why you want your friend to express that???its you who likes him so have guts to put this question across him and then you can sit back and relax as ball will be in his court then..
smart??
He won't rebuke you or slap you .so whats that making you so mad???????
You can write this long here about your feelings for him but can't tell him who actually needs to know and is the right person to tell you the right answer.
so now you know the direction and i would say close your eyes and go for it.
you can do it!!
am with you
lol!!
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