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writes:I am in a very abnormal situation and I would appreiciate Your advice. I am a 22 year old man with social disorders and it wasn't until four or five years ago that I was just able to approache someone and talk to them comfortably without being spoken to first. As you can already guss this has severely impaired my interactions with the opposite sex. I have been asked out or have been shown interest by several girls over the years but I simply did not know who to respond to them as someone with normal communications skills would, and I still feel absolutely awful about how I responded or reacted to some of these young ladies in the past when I didn't know any better or mean any harm. I am now very confident in my dealings with the opposite sex but I just don't know how I can explain my track record to a woman my age if she were to ask questions about my past experiences. This would be extremely uncomfortable for me not only because I do not have any previous dating experiences to speak of but some parts of my past are extremely brutal as well. How do I begin dating someone without her being curious about who I was before? Reply to this Question
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (21 January 2011):
What does "social disorders" supposed to mean? Your writing skills seem fine. Are you being too hard and critical on yourself? You're only 22. There are plenty of people who have very little or no dating experience at that age.
Maybe going out to bars and clubs isn't going to be the right place for you, but there are plenty of other places where you can find nice, genuine and kind women that want the same in a boyfriend.
Focus on your strengths and what you CAN offer to someone else instead of getting stuck up on debilitating phrase words to describe yourself.
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reader, petina1 +, writes (21 January 2011):
 The best way forward in this situation is to be absolutely honest with someone. Find the right setting to have your date, somewhere quiet in the corner of a restaurant or pub and explain how it is. You have explained perfectly in your writing so keep those words in your mind and try to do the same in your conversation. Too many problems on these sites are about people who keep things from others, we all like open nes and honesty, it's a good starting point to getting to know and trust someone.
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