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writes:So there is this guy I am attracted to physically in school. We're just friends- he's a bit reserved. I notice him looking at me when we are in the same room. We are friends, we have a lot of mutual friends too. He's a bit shy when he's around people. When it's just the two of us, he's more open. He asks me questions and I notice he always has to do something with his hands when he talks to me... so cute! When his friends are around, he keeps the conversation very minimal and then runs off. So I am very good friends with his very good friend (Let's call the mutual friend J). J tells me here and there that I should go on a date with my crush. (I didn't tell him I liked him). J also told me the first time he met me he told my crush that he should 'go for me.' My crush supposedly just replied- 'shut up.' J asked me if I liked him and I never give him a straight answer. I asked J if my crush liked me and he wouldn't give me a straight answer either. He just told me '[crush] doesn't know me that well.'This other girl (who I'm not really friends with and my crush doesn't like) tried setting us up too. I asked her why she was trying to play matchmaker and she answered- 'Well I see two quiet people and sometimes you have to ignite things.' She supposedly also went up to him and said the same thing. J told me that he just pretended not to hear what she was saying. I feel like the world is trying to 'set us up' but it makes me feel even more awkward (and I think he feels awkward too)- especially when I'm around my crush. I just want things to happen on their own, if anything even happens.I don't know what he thinks of me... But J always tells me that if I want to get with my crush to tell him. He can make it happen. He told me I need to be with a nice guy and crush is a nice guy. So what do you guys think is going on here? Does crush like me? Is he telling J something? And why does it feel like the world is trying to hook us up?
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reader, edwardilvu  +, writes (12 February 2010):
I was in the same situation untill very recentally and it sounds like he really likes you, he has told J but is too shy to do anything about it. You are probably too scared to but try to get him in a position where you can ask him out. When you like a guy and he likes you back, it does tend to feel like the whole world is trying to put you guys in the same position. My advice would be to go for it, you don't have anything to lose, just something to gain, if he dosen't like you, there will be some one else who does, there will be someone who is right for you out there, even if it isn't your crush right now.
Good Luck!
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