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anonymous
writes:I have a something that is driving me crazy... I recently met back up online with my first love from high school online and we havent seen each other in 15 years atleast, but we have talked a while now online and then started visiting one another... ok, here is the tough part: I'm unhappily married and he is divorced, so we have talked about this and he said he would take things slow and see how we did...I never thought about how he would feel when i was still coming home to my family , so when he said that he was kinda talking to someone else too, I was jealous and got upset.. I had figured we were gonna have a relationship and in time I would be leaving my husband to be with him..needless to say we got in to a small spat about all this and decided to go our seperate ways, which really was all my idea.. well, now i'am wanted to see him. I miss him so much and I'm the one that put the stop to things .. what should I do? sometimes I think I should just live on with my life, but I can't stop thinking about all the passion we had ... what do I do??? just need a little help and great advice on this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Not to be harsh, but Anonymous man's advice is bang on.
And if you can take it constructively then you might just have a chance to turn your unhappy life into something that you can be happy about.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (21 March 2011):
 If you are unhappily married then you need to either try to mend your marriage or end it before you get involved with someone else.
So you have hooked up with a guy from the past and already you are assuming that you will end up with him, this is a very dangerous thing to do. He is already getting interested in other women so how reliable is this guy? Are you really seeing things for how they really are?. It could be that he is happy to flirt with you and meet with you knowing you arnt really in a position to move on. He could just be playing with you.
It's almost always a bad idea to begin something new before the past is dealt with. If you want to be with him, tell him you are going to get divorced, see what his reaction is. Then you will have a clearer picture of his feelings.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2011): Your problem is it's 2011 and your head is lagging in 1998. He's in touch with reality and you aren't. Leave that man alone. He's living for today with a current day interest and you're stuck in a time warp. And what else are you thinking? You're still in the marriage mix. He's single. You have way to much baggage and drama going on. Before you think about bringing another man into your house you need to clean it first. Get your act together. No wonder the fellow isn't into you and at the rate you're going a man worth anything will run the opposite way from you. Clean up your act then date.
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