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writes:Hi i am 26 and i have been in my current relationship for over three years now and we have a little girl of 18 months. Oh yeh we have lived together for a little over two years. Since i have been with my current partner she has lied about talking to other men and to be quite honest i had many girl mates i use to talk to and she had made things clear that she did not like it, how im flirting etc. So i decided to respect that and for the sake of love i chose to do the right thing especially this time round as it has always been a big issue before with exes. But she could not pay the same respect back meaning not talking to other men. this cant be one rule for me and then another for her. another issue i have is she had told me after having sex that she has had better with the opposite race. then a few days later she had spoke to him and i had seen it in her phone so i confronted her and her excuse was that she only spoke to him for a about 2mins but when i see the call duration she was on the phone for 20+ minutes. that had completely knocked my confidence. since she has mentioned that i am crap in bed and i had not slept with her for over a year. also she has never tryde to make love with me, it always me having to make the move and i cant do it. another thing she had said is that she is only with me because we were expecting a baby. At this point i was really weak and around the same time my father had sacked me from work so her saying that it felt like my world was crashing down. my partner eventually carried on with more lies. and i felt stuck. another situation was she was at salsa class with her friend and so i met them there but got there early, i stood back and noticed a guy all over her neck and she was smiling with him also flirting and looked very sentential. her friend sitting down notice me next to her and asked me dont you mind like an idiot i said no its cool and she looked at me strange like wow. My partner eventually noticed me and she and the guy completely stopped and i felt to say carry on but i wanted my pride more. I really regret meeting her sometimes. i have also caught her on facebook talking to her girl mate saying our sex business, saying i am crap. the sort of background she comes from is a well catholic foreign, good family upbringing but born in england. the family have very strong morals that i totally agree with but it seems she is the opposite. At the moment i have really little energy and feel like i am going crazy that's how she makes me feel. i cant talk to people around me because i know they will judge her and it could complicate things. I really appreciate it if someone can share there views. I got so much more to say but i will leave it like this for now.
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reader, wheresmyluck +, writes (3 November 2010):
 Hi there;
I really felt sorry for you pal :(.
I can only say clearly that theres nothing right with this girl as you can see as well. I know its hard but just put your head up and walk off before she takes off...
Thanks
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