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26-29,
anonymous
writes:so I need some help I guess... story goes I met this guy at a Christian retreat. he was the sweetest thin in the world. everything I want and nothing I don't. a Christian, which I just love his dedication to his faith. I'm extremely physically attracted to him, on top of mentally and emotionally. I feel a connection there between us, I have since I first started talking to him. he is a year older than me, and we live about 50 minutes away...next year I'll see him again, and this winter i'll see him again at a different retreat... but I miss him like mad.at the end of the retreat you write little notes to everyone you met to tell them how you feel, and write some inspiring things.. I wrote on his all this nice stuff then I put an arrow on it to indicate to flip the note over, where I had written on the back in small letters, "you're pretty cute" as soon as he got it, he texted me (I had given him my number earlier) and said "hey, I jut got your note, you're pretty cute yourself" so since I didn't have his number, I went out on a limb and said, "let me guess this is *name*?" an he was like, "good guess" so I said, "haha, sorry about that, I just felt the need to write that" and he went on to say, "haha it's all good, and like I said, you're really cute yourself" and we got talking...and I was just crazy over him. one night we talked and he said, "well, I'm sorry, I need to go now, but I will definitely text you tomorrow, sweet thing." I texted my one friend immediately after this and she told me that she was talking to him earlier in the day and he asked her, "why didn't she tell me she thought I was cute earlier?" I don't know the motive behind this question, but I was glad he was asking about me.about a week after he stopped texting me every day..and things have faded since then..I miss talking to him..later on, I put some puzzle pieces together..he told me he had a girlfriend..on Facebook is said he was "single"I thought maybe they had broken up but..I looked for the girl he was talking about on his friends list and there was only one girl by that name on his friends list..and she was in a relationship with someone else.on top of that, he had told me that she looked like my friend who has blonde hair and light eyes..when I looked at her picture, she had dark hair, and dark eyes an looked nothing like my friend.and lastly one of his friends also told me that his "girlfriend" looked like my friend... only to find out later that the guy I like, had just met his new friend, and his friend had never even seen his "girlfriend" before, because they live on opposite sides of the state! I'm very confused, buy I can pretty much say, he lied about having a girlfriend...now I want to know why? why would he lie about something like that?also, any advice on how to possibly get on his radar to make him notice me?how often should I text him?why did he stop texting me suddenly?or just any advice you have or any insight you may have for my situation that you think would be helpful to me for when I next see him..because I'll be honest...I know I haven't known him for that long...but I really like him.. thank you too anyone who took the tome to read this, and took the time to write a response! all advice will be taken into serious consideration!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (9 August 2011):
 Hi,
How confusing. He seemed the perfect guy and did all the right things then nothing.
The perfect catch which makes it so confusing. I know how frustrating this is. He cooled off for some reason. If he had a girlfriend then I doubt he would have acted like he did at the retreat because other Christians would have known he had a girlfriend and and he wouldn't have been able to take part in the sharing and the prayer without this coming up. Perhaps he is one of these lovely guys that just thinks too much about things and when he went home he analysed everything and just pulled away with the texts. It's difficult.
I would send him a text and say in so many words, "Hi I enjoyed the retreat and enjoyed my time with you and the others. If you would like to keep in touch blah blah blah."
So frustrating! See if he contacts? I hope he does. And also pray for God's help. Thank you.
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