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writes: Please Help...I Am Lost and confused.Recently my wife of 16 years has told me she is no longer in love with me. We have 5 beautiful children ranging from 18mths to 9.She tells me she wants me to leave and that she hates me, but I don't know what I've done wrong. When I ask I just get abuse and she threatens me that she will tell lies if need be to get rid of me.What have I done that is so wrong?I have nowhere to go, no money and I love my children so much it would break my heart not to be able to kiss them goodnight every night.I am very confused and feel so unhappy I feel to end it all would be the best answer. I even plan what I could do so the children would not see my death as a suicide. I need help...I'm so lost.This can't be right, what a wife can do to husband. It is so cruel, but what can I do? Do I have any rights?
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reader, dumpbucket  +, writes (7 July 2009):
Take comfort in knowing that there are countless others of US who are going through the same thing. Killing yourself would be a very selfish thing to do. Just tough it out and find a way to work something out with the kids. Forget trying to see things through her eyes. My guess is that she already treats you like a slave and nothing you do is right! My suggestion is to realize that your kids will always be your kids and they will love you regardless. They will grow up to resent her for what she is putting you through. Get an attorney, get weekends and some holidays and leave her only after seeing an attorney. This way she can't say you abandoned them. Being strong is very hard to do, I am going through the same thing, but your kids especially your boys need to see you as a strong father, not someone constantly getting walked over. They see and pick up on everything!
Yours Truly,
Dumpbucket
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reader, AuntyYasmin +, writes (5 February 2006):
could you perhaps give more detail on your relationship with your wife? have there been many arguments etc? what were they about?
She maybe depressed, or feel she is not being helped with 5 kids. Maybe you should treat her, make her feel special, appreciate her, help her round the house and with the kids. Try talking to her calmly and see everything from her point of view.
There is no need to commit suicide....your kids would be heartbroken. They need you so much, it would destroy them. If you loved them, you shouldn't leave them. Go to your gp and explain your suicidal thoughts....there is alot he/she can do to make you feel better. There is help out there. Do not be afraid! Seek some help asap for the sake of your kids! XX
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2006): Come on you must have an idea why your wife wants out of the marriage. You are not being honest here and that may just give PART of the clue why you are in the situation you are now in. A mother with 5 kids don't kick their husband out for nothing. O.K????? What have you done wrong you asked. You Know. You must have simply gone too far with her and she could no longer take anymore.Suicide is not the answer. You have children to consider. Please seek professional help. A.S.A.P.
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reader, mystify +, writes (4 February 2006):
 you have wrote little to explain your situation with your wife that might explain why she is being this way , is she depressed? not in love with you? angry at you? i really feel for you i have kids and could not imagine one night with out them and would love to offer help but i dont know where to start , there are so many things that could hlp or hinder with the little information given.
but your kids would not benefit from your suicide in any way , please seek help on this matter from your gp or professional.
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