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writes:So here is me. I just sit on my bottom, doing nothing at home most of the time. I want to do something this summer. I've never had a G/F, and I really don't care for one, but i always think it would be nice to have someone sweet te be there in your life at least once.So I just don't know what to do. How do I start? Where do I go? I don't like going to the clubs. What do I need to do to start out? I would say "We should hang out sometime" to a girl, but would that work? Reply to this Question
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Saying hi is nice. What made you approach this one particular girl? That is what you say. You esentially tell her why you are approaching HER out of every other woman in that place. You don't have to be creepy about it. Maybe say, Hi, how are you? I saw you and thought I would come over... etc. If you are in a book store maybe stand beside her and comment on a book. If she is a chick that works in a store that you find attractive, ask for her help with something, then start up a conversation. There are so many ways to approach a girl I was just merely saying not to use a line. I actually asked a lot of my girlfriends how they would react if they were approached with "would you like to go out sometime?" and every one of them said- um... no. If she is carrying on a conversation with you, laughing smiling and flirting, even subtly, is when you know she is interested. Ask for her number after you talk for a little while. The worst that could happen is she says no. It isn't so bad, you just move on, and always remember there are plenty of reasons for a girl to say no and not to take it personally or let it get you down. She may have just gotten out of a bad relationship, may be in love with someone else, etc. Most likely she will not tell you all the details and just say "no thanks". Be yourself and be confident. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionso I approach someone and say what? just "hi" cause thats all i can say unless I know what to say.sure i can talk to girls but getting them to go out is something else.how do i know if someone likes me? its always subtleim not going to cheat wearing sex pheromones that make girls ask me out (not saying those work anyways)
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (12 May 2008):
Get a job. Get a hobby. Join a gym. Volunteer. Go out to malls or book stores or anywhere. Clubs are not the place to look for a sweet, caring person to be in your life. More like a one night stand type place. Or thats what girls assume a guy is looking for when approaching her in a club. Anyways, I wouldn't say that line. It is unoriginal and I would not be interested if a guy said that to me. Girls want to feel different and special, not like you are using some line on them. Just be honest. If you see a girl out somewhere that you find attractive, approach her. Say something genuine. Getting a job would be the best start in my opinion. That or joining a club or volunteering. This way you are around girls a lot and really get to know them first. It will also keep you busy and not feel like you are lazing around. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): go to gym, school, mall, movie theatre you and some of your guy friends walk up to a gurl you like and talk to her... myspace sad to say lol but you meet lots of people of it then know how you look yousee how they look and meet up... trust me try it out good luck:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): try doing some volunteer work. at a local soup kitchen or hospital, or get a job. i feel so much better about myself when i do things like that and u meet lots of people. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): Join groups that may interest you. Sports, art or musical classes, school paper, well, any group activity that's co-ed. There you'll have things in common with whomever you meet, you'll be enjoying yourself, meeting new people and doing interesting stuff. then, as you befriend some girls, you may start deciding who you like better, and well, start having fun. Maybe some of them will become good friends (despite people who believe that people of the oppsoite sex can't just be friends, I do believe that, and I think those friendships are very important because they give you new perspectives), who can introduce you to other girls. You'll also make more guy friends.
The idea is to expand your social life. Therefore you'll have a richer and fuller life, with more interesting topics to talk about and a bigger dating pool (I've never been a fan of that term, but it applies). You'll feel better and you'll never be bored!
Have fun and good luck!
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