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writes: i am in this relationship there is a 8 year age gap.we have been together for 5 months and we love each other really much.but the thing is even though he is older he wants to wait for sex but well i want to fuck his brains out he is a personal fitness instructure and i am at college at the moment but i really want to fuck him so hard he is 25 i am 17 basically i am asking would you have sex with someone who you have only been with 5 months?help pleas ejust give me advice please Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwe have talked and discussed and we are waiting becaus ehe isn't ready yet and we have decided not to rush into things
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Point taken OP.
I was a sloppy reader and I should have noticed the flag icon.
I also probably should have mentioned that the age gap between you to may seem unsavory to quite a few people; for instance your parents or any adult who takes an interest you....
Or for his circle of friends and family. He may not want to tell his friends or family, that he is having sex with a teenager.
I'm not trying to put you down or say that you can't have your own sexuality just because your 17. All I'm saying is that you should know that dating someone who is almost a decade older than you when you are a teenager arouses suspicion...
I also happen to think you are not so comfortable with the age difference because of your previous post:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-this-age-gap-too-big.html
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni am legal of ange in the uk the ago of consent is 16 so i am not a minor
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Maybe he's uncomfortable sleeping with a minor
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): He may be stalling for good reason, depending what state you are in, you may be technically "underage".
He's waiting till you are totally legal. If you are under 18 and he is 18 or older, if you have sex, even consensual sex, technically your boyfriend may have "raped" you (in some states).
From a legal perspective, since you are a minor, you are not a legal adult and can not make the decision to have consensual sex or not. The law is meant to protect 11 year olds, not penalize 17 year olds.
From this guy's perspective, all your parents or anyone who has an issue with your relationship has to do is find out about it and complain to the police and charges can be brough against this guy.
I know this probably sounds absurd to you, but it has already happened with couples who are as yound as 17 & 18....the girlfriend's mother just didn't happen to like her daughter's boyfriend and reported it to the police
Don't take it personally, he's just being strategic about it.
That said, waiting is not a big deal. There are plenty of people who complain, "I had sex too soon". I have yet to hear from someone who said they, " waited too long" to have sex with someone they cared about out.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 Some people would have sex far sooner than five months, some people wait far longer than that. More important that what other people feel is how YOU TWO feel. Maybe it's the age thing. Maybe he's uncomfortable sleeping with a minor. Maybe he's not sure about his feelings. Maybe he's not sure about YOUR feelings. Maybe you two aren't even compatible. Maybe he's worth the wait. In the end, this is about the two of you. Talk about it with him and decide whether he's worth the wait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): Look, whilst there is nothing lawfully wrong here given you are in the U.K. and have been legal for a year at least.
He clearly feels uncomfortable doing anything sexual at least until you are a legal adult (ie. when you turn 18).
I would give him the benefit of the doubt and aquiesce to his wishes at this point. I mean, he clearly only has your best interests at heart and doesn't wish for you to end up regretting anything later on. Elsewise, talk to him about things and see why he wishes to wait a little longer and talk about your own desires for him.
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