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writes:hey ok i'm not even sure what i'm asking here but to give you the full picture i'm affriad this will be quite long even thought i will try to keep it brief. Right theres a guy in my class who i seriously like. Although we didn't speak loads we used to get on great and stuff but then again we didn't know each other to well. He's such a nice lad and he ain't like others when they start picking on people and stuff although he will laugh along he will only go so far because he doesn't believe its right. like theres this lad that everyone hates and people really upset him once and the next day although he said in the morning"who wants(name) to leave this course?" in the afternoon he went over to him and asked him to come over and sit with us. So you see what kinda person he is. its just since xmas and stuff the class have been quite nasty to me cuz apprently they don't like me because i'm different and i don't fit in but i don't see how cuz i got on so well when i joined that course, it maybe the fact that half the girls in the class are from my old school and they aren't the people that i really got a long with cuz they're the over confident hyper type and i'm a bit more independant. Now up until this he used to stare at me a lot, there was a lot of signs that he liked me like if his legs touched mine i dunno if he could feel it the way i could but he didn't always move it, soemtimes he did others he didn't, but since this it suddenly stopped and although he never aimed anything nastily at me he used to laugh a long with them, infact the only thing he did was when they ere all throwing something at me he threw it at me once. But this past month the sings have started to come back, they never really totally left they just sorta dyed out. He is staring at me more and stuff the only thing is he's moved seats to sit behind me. but when he says things like winding me up or just picking on me in a game or something i can never tell if its ment in a nasty way or if he's just messing around cuz he does a lot of that. But surely if everyone else hates me then theres a good chnace he does to right? Sometimes he does make eye contact and stuff but he does that with everyone when he's talking to them but for some reaosn he seems to just stare at me sometimes whe we aren't talking. I have been accused of liknig him by the other lads, although i did't admit it but didn't deny it either and theres a girl he's mates with and she waas stood behind me and the lad talking to him cuz we were sitting next to each other and he looked at one of them-not sure which one an moved his head and eyes to the left as if to say look or something(but it was something to do with me cuz then the lad i like looked at me then just looked up at his mate.Couln't see what was going on cuz i didn't look at him back cuz didn't wanna make anything to obvious and before all this-like everyoen hating me and stff i always tried to hide it that i liked him ut sicne then i've started to look at him more an make it a bit mroe obvious(please understand that i will be with these people for the next yr, we only know each other and stay togeva as group so theres no one else i can hang round with since its such a small college although the girls soemtimes go and sit with some people they know from a different course. This is why its hard. But tey don't bully me as in threaten e just nasty comments really) I don't know what to do cuz i'm missing him like crazy and dread going in to college but then again i need to see him. but on valentines day he was talking to two people in our class a girl and lad and they were ust talking and sorta laughing and one of them said something like "tell her?" (not 100% about that tis just what i made out at the time) and he laughed and went abit red but the next day he wasn't in and it was that la that accused me of liking him. Also when we were in the library he ws asked a question duno what it was but i'm sure he answered with my name and this other lad in our clas laughed and then the day after we were sitting together and someone said something to him and he just sorta laughed abit like he was embarrassed and goes "shut up" but in a soft voice and stuff. See this is really confusing i dunno whether he like me or not but i have a feeling he knows i like him cuz the two days before we broke up for the holidays he was a bit off with me. So i really dunno what to do or think? A mates trying to find out info but it isn't going to well since they never get chnace to talk. Do you think he likes me and also do you know anyways my mate could sorta get him to admit anything and stuff. But eyt again theres times when he's said he'll never egt a gf, he can't be doing with them or he'll never find one that won't use him for money or soemthing. What do you think?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (13 April 2008):
Flippin' eck that's complicated.
My advice is to leave it and see what happens. Like you said, you have to be with these people for the next year and it will make your life easier if you are single and independent.
What if you go out with him and then it doesn't work out? It could make college really hard and you want to do well so you don't need that kind of stress.
The guy joins in with everyone, even if he doesn't want to so he is a bit of a sheep. I doubt he will be nice about you after a break up.
And don't worry about being unpopular at school, all the coolest people are. In 10 years, all the Cool girls and boys will be working behind desks in crap jobs in their small town with a million kids and a failed marriage.
You will be where ever your dreams take you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008): i think he has some feelings for you :)but hes a bit of a prick cause she off with you when his mates are and when there not around hers like a different lad hes not worth it tbhbut if you love him like you said you do tell him and dont care what people say there prob just jealouse or how ever you spell it hope this helps love xx
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