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writes:So two weekends ago I met this guy out at a club. I found him very attractive and he kept complimenting me, etc. Being that I had been out of a relationship for several months, I was feeling the need for...sex. So to make a long story short, we slept together that night, and yes, we did use protection.The next day I was fully intending to just leave. It is what it is, just sex. I don't even live in that city anymore, I was just visiting (I make regular visits to see friends and family and plan on moving back in a year)so I wasn't even thinking about any sort of possibility of a relationship forming. Well he was making up excuses for me to stay longer; we went out to get some food and just hung out and talked. I was leaving for home that day so after I left (about 3 in the afternoon) he texts me about 2 hrs later and asked me if I was still in town because he wanted to see me. I told him that I already left but I had a good time and that I will talk to him soon.The next day he texts me again asking about my day. I let him know, ask him the same thing...simple. Two days go by and I was curious if he was really interested and I wanted to show I too had some interest in him, so I asked him if he wanted to keep me company this past weekend since my room-mate would be out of town. He said that he may be able to if Saturday night was okay. I said it was good. Anyway, he ended up not coming because he said that he wants to come see me,but he was waiting to get paid, so he's broke. Totally understandable (it's a 3 hours drive and gas isn't cheap), and I'm not going to suggest he's lying being that I don't know him well enough in the first place to accuse him of being dishonest. I told him it's fine and understandable and that I may be in town next weekend anyway.That was a few days ago, he hasn't texted me or called me since then. So is he just not interested? Was he trying to be nice? Could he have some interest but he's trying to play it cool? It's confusing to me. It would have been better if he just never called me, then it wouldn't have sparked my interest in him on another level.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thanks. He actually did call me yesterday...it's the whole maybe he's interested, maybe he's not vibe. But I'll just have to see how it goes. As far as asking him straight out what he's thinking, it freaks me out. Maybe I somewhat don't even know what I want either, I probably even have some of the same reservations. I'll just go with the flow. But thanks for your input.
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reader, youngmistakes  +, writes (2 September 2009):
well as a man myself, and have gone through similar situation. i would say maybe. there is no definite answer. men, not just women, arent all the same. I have done that and jsut msgd the next day or 2 so didnt feel like an ass, but then kinda broke it of so i wouldnt have a trail behind me. but i have also done that, and rly didnt have much to sya even though i wanted to pursue. and 3 hrs is a long ways, esp to start a relationship, so he might think he is wasting his time. its up to you. best advice just ask him. straight out.
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