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writes:Im seeing this guy, its a strict just sex thing, then i met his brother, they are twins but not identical. Tom* doesn't mind that i like Brian*, he knows i like him, and brian knows im sleeping with tom. I always use protection, i really really do like Brian, he is lovely, everything tom isnt. Tom is ignorant and can be horrible and hes had brushes with the law. Brians the good boy, hes looking for a job and is getting a new flat, hes only been introuble with the law once that was many years ago because of something petty.Tom, Doesnt care about me, in the loving way, i know and i dont care about that as i said its just a sex thing. He does care about me, but not in a girlfriend way. However, when im with tom, i feel worthless like im an object, at the begging i didn't want that, i wanted a nice loving relationship of some sort.Brian, knows i like him, and he says he really likes me too, and he doesnt want a relationship just yet, until hes got a job and a flat and is back on his feet, i feel thats best for us both. But we are seeing each other and he told me he loves me and makes me feel valued, he cares so much about me, and ive slept with him twice, and he was so gently and pleased me so much more than tom.I feel like a slapper though, Tom doesn't know ive slept with Brian the second time, and he said he doesn't care. Brian wants me to stop seeing tom, but isn't pressuring me into doing it. Im falling for Brian and i feel like rubbish when im with Tom, but when im with Tom, i get the attention i need because i barley see Brian. I need your help on what to do so please help.Cheersx Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (22 April 2009):
 I have read this over a couple of times, and the only thing I have to say is WHY? are you sleeping with the guy who makes you feel so worthless? Is he that good in bed? Have a bit more respect for yourself, and find a guy who will want to make love to you, and treat you right. I think you need to work out what you want, as you seem to want your cake and eat it, but someone is going to get hurt. Which brother do you like the most? (It seems to be Brian), yet you are not willing to give up sex with Tom. What are your priorities? Do you actually want a relationship, or just sex? Maybe you need to think this out in your head, and decide what you really feel deep down.From my own personal view, if I really liked someone a lot, I couldnt sleep with another man as a "stop gap" when I couldnt see the one I really wanted to be with. I would wait, and be patient. Best of luck!
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