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*angkurt
writes:Hey everyone..I know this is a bit long..but plz read the WHOLE THING and help me out with this mess tht im in..:(Its been almost 6 months since i broke up with my gf!(she was my first and i wanted her to be my last too)we were together for 2 years and 2 months to be exact!i loved her more than anything/anyone in this world..i wanted to marry her as soon as we finished our studies!To make it reli short..the reason(s) i broke up with her was cuz she was very rude to me..for almost 2 yrs she has made cry almost everyday!in the beginning of our relationship she also cheated on me!but i loved her too much to break up with her then!i was her shoulder to cry on..whenever she would be sad or upset..i was her stress buster..she would yell at me..call me stuff and insult me!i didn't take any offense as i loved her unconditionally..and was always there for her!She would say stuff like no other guy would ever stick with her even for a month..and tht she was the luckiest girl to have a guy like me..but before u know it..i was being yelled at again!:(Everyone incld my folks wanted me to break up with so badly..cuz thy cudn't see me cry like a baby everyday!I literally begged her to treat me rite..and i gave her a lot..i mean a LOT of chances..but she didn't change a bit!i never backed away from doing stuff which she wanted me do(physical stuff)but when it was my turn..she would say stuff like.."im not ready"..but i never felt bad..cuz i loved her so much!She made me stop talking to my female friends..bcuz a couple of them had a crush on me!I din't care!But then i realized tht she just didn't mean what she said and i broke up with her!the last thing she told me was that she would always wait for me to take her back and she would always love me!So around 2 months back..i was missing her like crazy and so i decided to take her back(crazy rite?!)well..guess wht?!she hung u on me and completely ignored all my messages!and turns out tht she has been flirting with a guy in her class!That broke my heart into a million pieces!:(breaking up with her is the hardest thing ive ever had to do till date!Every second i spent with her..even the one's in pain were very precious to me!she meant the world and more to me!I loved going shopping with her..cuz i loved the way she would try clothes on..that gave me a lot of peace!just putting her to sleep would bring a smile on my face!!I loved holding her hand and kissing her!I loved making stuff for her and pampering her!But since i broke up..ive tried so hard to let her go..but im just not able to!:((She was the biggest part of me!Even when i see a reli attractive female..i try to find my ex in her!I want to feel that way again..and i think il feel that way only with her!Im going crazy..im not able to concentrate on my studies or music!Its like im always dreaming that she come to me and beg me to take her back!but i know thats impossible!:((and i also know that she didn't deserve me!I don't know if i can fall in love again..Im losing my mind..please help me guys!!plz..Thanks!:)
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reader, raiders  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 Aangkurt you are to sweet and nice, and you will find love again. This was your first love and it is hard to get over it but believe me you will love again.
Its hard to explain because when we are in love we feel we can only love that person and that we would never feel the same for someone else, but guess what we do.
Aangkurt what you need is time and time will heal your heart, time will take away the pain, and with time you will be able to love again.
Please put yourself first if she was too call, leave her in the past. You can do better and deserves so much more. As a man put your pride first and cry in close doors and do not let her see you defeated, because that pain will go away, and you will love again.
Good Luck and I really hope you shake yourself off and start again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): You will fall in love again.. relax.
You have to sort out your self esteem..whay do you allow yourself to be treated badly, and why do you crave a girl who is clearly not good for you. It appears that on some level you like the drama, and this is not a good omen for a happy life.
If you feel at home with misery and distress then this is something you need to recognise and address.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): There are women out there who are better than her and can show you the love you deserve. She doesn't deserve someone like you so try to move on from this and get yourself out there again. In a way you should be lucky, I can't imagine myself staying in a relationship like that for the rest of my life. This isn't the end, but an opportunity to find better love..a love that is mutual and there are many girls looking for the same thing as you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): I am sorry. I know how people can figure out your weakness nad exploit it. You just need to go out and find a new girl trust me i have been there the easiest way to get over a bad breakup is to hook up with a few girls.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (7 May 2010):
 I think if you do yourself the favor of ridding yourself of this girl, you'll remove yourself from the precipice of insanity and you'll find you mind, again. This girl is ABUSIVE and you're a willing victim! She knows you'll take whatever she dishes out and so she continues the abuse. Were I you, my friend, I'd do myself the favor of replacing her with a pissed off rattlesnake! It'd be much more healthy for you.
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