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writes:I'm 25 and my sister's 23, been with her girlfriend since November 2008. She moved in with her in February 2009 and things were good up until end of March - beginning of April, she said.Last week she told me she'd broken up with her because of domestic violence from her girlfriend, and I suggested that we report it to the police.We reported it to the police, and they said "Unless it involves car crime, theft of vehicles or is about drink-driving, we can't do anything about it, sorry!"My sister's got physical scars from the domestic violence, but is amazingly not mentally scarred by it, she said "I made a mistake getting into this relationship, didn't think it at the time, oh well, it's life experience, just means I'm going to know what to look out for next time".She said she had absolutely no idea that she'd got into an abusive relationship - everything seemed good.We both feel upset that the police refuse to do anything about it, especially as this is domestic violence in a gay relationship.I feel disgusted the police have decided to ignore it and their attitude that only if it involved car crime would they take it seriously is awful.How do we cope with this?Joanne
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): sorry.. me again ms anonymous... It dosen't matter if it's a same sex relationship.. Abuse is abuse, and British police people should have had education on this.. Again, many police forces have dedicated units for people in same sex relationships. Your police force is badly run and incompetent, demand they look after your sister, the way many women (lesbian or not) are looked after, right across Britain..
Sorry, but this type of crap makes me mad.. I'm sorry for your sister, she deserves a hell of a lot more. Blessings, be strong for her
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): PS.. me again, Ms anonymous.. don't ignore it.. the only way to get justice and help for your sister, is to talk to the people in charge, and make up a lot of noise... Otherwise, they don't care and they don't bother, because it's not them or their women folk who suffer, they still get paid. People in charge hate noise, make some and your sister will be treated like a queen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): "Unless it involves car crime, theft of vehicles or is about drink-driving, we can't do anything about it, sorry!"
Disgusting, your local police force seems backward and badly run.. Many police forces across Britain have dedicated "domestic violence" units, and there are also many charities that currently deal with this.
Here is the website about this from the UK government website, they have telephone lines that can help.
http://www.homeoffice.gov.uk/crime-victims/reducing-crime/domestic-violence/
Contact yours and your sister's local Member of Parliament (MP)and complain about the way she has been treated by the police. The details should be on the website of your local council, just type the name in to a search engine, or can be found in your local library or Town Hall.
Finally send a letter of complaint to the police.. Remember to request a response, an apology and some satisfactory help within 28days.. In this situation, your MP should be the most help.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS A CRIME, IT IS ASSAULT AND PEOPLE CAN BE SENT TO JAIL...
Good on you for helping your sister, please contact the relevant people, and make sure that she receives the help that she pays for and deserves.
PS: If your sister has scars, and can provided evidence to link it to her partner, the police must investigate and put forward a case to the CSA. If you scar someone, this is either "common assault" or "grievous bodily harm" and a jail sentence can be obtained.
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reader, aphexinfinite +, writes (9 May 2009):
 That cannot be right. seems something wrong their. many other people get done for it so why not this..perhaps their is a domestic abuse line that you could phone to tell you what it is you need to do in order to get this sorted out. also they will be able to tell you how to handle the situation. just be supportive of your sister and be the shoulder she needs to cry on when she needs it..heres a web page with phone numbers and perhaps more useful advice about domestic abuse in the uk as well as help lines. http://www.famouspeople.org.uk/3
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