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writes: Single on Valentine’s Day?It’s not much fun seeing big bunches of red roses and big red heart shaped balloons being delivered and knowing that none are for you. At least this year you will not be at work to see the succession of flowers delivered to the work place. As happens when Valentine’s Day occurs on a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday or Friday.All is not lost though. You can have a lovely day. There are some plus sides to being single on Valentine’s Day. Really? Yes, I can see you don’t believe me, yet. So what can you do?Go to the gym, there are sure to be some other singles there working out. Your body will feel better after a work-out session and the natural endorphins will kick in a lift your mood even further.You get to choose the perfume you want to wear.You get to choose the lingerie you want to wear. Now I suggest that in this respect you go for broke. Why should you wear the shapeless oversize T-shirt to bed? Go crazy. Find some charmeuse silk and make or have made a glorious long extravagant nightie created perhaps with some guipure lace on the bodice. You are important too. You don’t need a partner to wear something lovely to bed. Charmeuse silk has a satin feel but is much more luxurious than synthetic satin.Similarly guys, once you have discovered silk underwear you will not want to go to bed naked any more. And going to bed alone will not seem so miserable. Silk next to skin feels lovely. You will not regret the change to silk underwear. Read a great book without interruption. I recently finished (after many interruptions :) Irene Nemirovsky’s book called Suite Francaise and it was so much better than the film.If you want to go away for the weekend it does not involve endless consultation. Instead you choose and you go where you want to go, and your decision is the final word on the destination chosen.Order some amazing take-a-way and not have to share it with anyone.You don’t need a reason to buy flowers or grow flowers for yourself. Plant some roses when the time is right and enjoy. I purposefully planted David Austin’s rose Munstead wood so that people have to walk past it to get to the front door. When it is in flower everyone comments on the beautiful scent. It is a bit thorny, so it is not picked but the scent is lovely.The bathroom is your domain when you are single. You don’t have to do battle with anything from rubber ducks to towels left on the floor by sons who think the floor is a storage place. You can waltz into bathroom, arrange your candles, positon you tray of nibbles, put on some stirring classical music in the next room and settle down to enjoy one hour of bliss, uninterrupted by any emergency, in your scented deep bath. Take advantage of the solitude and the time to enjoy pampering you.If you want to go to bed with your face encased in Peruvian mud infused with secret ingredients from the Andes and wake up looking like a Goddess with flawless skin then there is no one to complain. If you want to encase your skin neck to toe in the most luxurious potion that will make you look ten years younger by next week then you do not need to endure complaints that your skin feels like the inside of a can WD40 There is only enough steak left for one? And that would be a problem because ??? Go ahead, you are single. You can have steak tonight.Need to wash your hair? Do it whenever you wish and you will never have complaints such as…. “You just did that so that you cannot…” No, you washed your hair because it will feel better clean than dirty. So you took 45 minutes in the bathroom? Once again, and that would be a problem because? Because girls know that just conditioner after a shampoo is not enough. There is the extra conditioner than needs to be left on for those minutes. Then there is the leave in stuff for shine. No need to explain. You used up all the conditioner? Of course you did and can. Because you are single no one can call you selfish for leaving the bathroom with NO conditioner.There are so many things to appreciate and value about your own achievements and your own skills. Value those skills and those achievements. Do not focus on the fact that there is not another person to encourage you.Reach out to others when it suits you.Please yourself about what you wear and when.You choose the films you want to watch. Check out what is on in your town or your city.Embrace and enjoy life. Be loving and kind to you every day, including on St Valentine’s Day. Because you deserve good things in your life even if Valentine’s Day comes around to remind you that, so far, someone has not discerned what a great person you are. But you know who you are and what you are capable of achieving so celebrate those facts and do not short change yourself in any way. You do deserve some great experience in your life. Go forward from this day on with confidence.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 February 2016):
 It can bring a lot of people down when they see the shops packed full of all the lovely dovey items. Especially if they are feeling lonely. Am sure most off us have been there at some stage in our lives. But it is also good to see so many people in happy loving relationships. Me personally I would be shamed if I got flowers delivered to work, for me those things are private.
If I was looking for something to do if I was alone Valentine's personally I don't think I would go to the gym. I think I would treat myself to lunch, go shopping and enjoy my day. I don't need anybody to buy me a present I can buy myself something that I want. Maybe even treat myself to a glass of wine. A good book in bed and a dimmed light, sounds bliss to me, maybe I would even soak in a nice hot bath beforehand with lovely scents and some candles. If I had any single friends well maybe we could head out for dinner, or for a drink or two. Maybe catch a new film out in the cinema. Equally I would be delighted for the friends who are getting wined and dined by there other half.
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