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writes:I am a single mother with two children having a hard time meeting new men. Any suggestions on how to get myself back out there and meet new people? Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Hi there,
the only advice I can offer outside of the other aunts is to make sure you let potential boyfriends know that you are looking for companionship not somebody to take over the father role in the family.
A single dad at my work always complains that most of the women he meets on the dating sites are looking mostly for someone to take the role of daddy - usually with an impetus on the financial side of things. For him its a turn off as he feels that the girls are only interested in his wage not him.
Good luck anyway, and get yourself out there.
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reader, hevans3  +, writes (16 April 2008):
I was a single mother for seven years and never had any trouble meeting new men or new friends. My advice is let them get to know you first and then let them know that you have a child. I don't mean 6 months later, but just dont go on about how hard it is as soon as you meet them. They will just think that you cant cope and that you need a man. You have coped so far and you do not need a man to help bring up your child, you need a man for you. Find somebody who wants to be with you no matter what, child or no child. But if he does want to be around and ultimately move in with you or marry you, then his opinion in the up bringing of that child does matter.You may not agree with him most of the time but let him know why and what your disagrements are. You are ultimately in control of yours and for now your childs/childrens lives. That is until they reach about 5 and then its all up to them(so they think. I hope you meet somebody deserving of you!!!!!Just remember that sometimes it is not a man or a friend you need but somebody who has been there and understands you, Take care!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (16 April 2008):
 Go to a single mum and dads group to meet people like you and single dad like you, or dating web site am sure if you surf you will find a nice man thats a good role model for your kids.Good luck.
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (16 April 2008):
 For God sake don't get aquainted with Southern man he is a religious nutter who comes on here and says that people who fornicate and commit adultery will not go to heaven etc etc.
On a serious note there are dating websites for single parents. Good Luck xxx
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