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writes:I am a single mom. Been in 3 serious relationships (basically my whole adult life). Now I want to date. Nothing serious. I do not want a boyfriend. My poor children have suffered enough watching the last 3 guys leave. ( I was married twice. Had 2 children with my first and a third with my last exhusband. Most recent ex was just a nice man I dated for 2 years, and we lived together). Anyways, like I said, I want a guy to go out with and have a good time, eventually have a sexual relationship with. But that is it. I do not want my children to ever meet him. So my question(s) are: Do I need to tell the guy I am dating I am a mom? (its hard to even get a date being a mom) And how do you tell him its just casual without sounds like a skank? (I still wanna be wined and dined, I am not going to jump into bed with just anyone)Complicated I know... Reply to this Question
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reader, cb1102 +, writes (26 September 2010):
cb1102 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionobviously I do want to meet Mr Right. But for now, I just want to enjoy my life without worrying about getting hurt. I am afraid actually terrified. I just want to have fun. My children go to their dads ever other weekend. That leaves me with 4 days a month to date/ have a social life. And I think thats plenty. My babies are my main priority. I deserve to have a little fun too :)
Thanks for your advice
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reader, Marielana28 +, writes (26 September 2010):
I dated casually for about three years before I met my bf. He can know you're a mom, but tell just don't let him meet the kids. If he asks about it, and he may not, just tell him that you only introduce your kids if it's been a year or you are very serious, leading to a long term commitment. That's what I did. No one was really offended. Stick to your guns - this is you protecting your kids, and if any guy has a problem with that, they will never be right for you. Why would someone NOT want you to protect yourself? Only if they are assholes.
Do not say anything about anything being casual, until it comes up from him. You have the right to see anyone you want and NOT be exclusive, without declaring it. He would have to talk about exclusivity in order for you to bring it up. In the meantime, do what you want and have fun.
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