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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi i find it so hard to meet someone. Ive been single 8 months. I really want to be with someone i get really lonely. Ive never had a one night stand and never want to. My friends have. And sometimes i just feel boring cos i dont like to get drunk and sleep around thats not me. Im 26 and i have had 2 major relationships. One 5yrs one two years. The last one though i was really hurt. As he was womenizer. I always felt insecure paranoid and depressed. Hes new how i feel but played on it! He would tell me bout all the women he been with. How he has to turn women down 4 fun. How everytime he want out rubbing it in my face how many women wanted him etc. I was totally in love and never felt good enough. He used me. And i gave everything to him! I just think when it gonna b my turn? Its so hard to meet someone. I get attention from alot of bloke but some how i just dont want to say cos i think they r after one thing. Ive stopped going out now cos im just fed up going out on my own single when i just really want someone to cuddle up to at home!
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reader, Mrs Mac +, writes (17 May 2009):
 Try not to put yourself doen over this. I know that it may seem at the moment that you may never find someone but love turns up when you least expect it too.
It sounds like there has been some self esteem damage from the last relationship but you have to try and overcome this and not mark every man the same because you have had a bad experience. This person clearly had no respect for you or himself.
There is nothing wrong with the fact that you would rather have a cuddle up at home than going to get drunk and there will be someone out there for you who feels the same.
Try and keep your chin up and learn to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you.
Mrs Mac
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): I think you are lovely. I think you should go out. I think you should wait and not just jump in with anyone.
I think you should find someone who is into you. I think the guy who was rateing you against all the other women he could have had was a tosser.
The way you are is the way that most decent men would like their girlfriends to be - e.g. not jumping into be with someone just to rack up a scorecard. You are worth more than that.
Hiding yourself away is not the answer - go find some other friends are not so shallow. I think you are beautiful and believe me Love is worth the wait - find someone who is into you.
Star.x.
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