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female
age
41-50,
*wifeblues
writes:My Husband and I just got married less then 2 months ago...We've been together for 5 years and it was his decision to get married. I thought this would be such a wonderful start to a new life. I was so Wrong!! Since our wedding, he does nothing but pick fights with me, and make me feel really insecure about thing and really really stupid. He stays up all night and looks up other women on the computer, he paid $50 to a private account to watch porn. He sometimes doesn't even come to bed, but would rather sleep on the couch and he doesn't want any physical contact. we've only had sex once in the last oh 5 months. I've tried to talk to him but he just doesn't want to talk too me about anything and said so. We've gone to see the doctor and everything seems fine and I know he still has a sex drive (he masturbates). I have no idea what to do anymore. I'm to the point I want to ask him if hes having an affair/ leave him. I'm feeing so regected and now I'm getting depressed. What should I do?
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reader, Midge  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 The problem here seems to be communication. He doesnt want to communicate for some reason or other. Have you tried talking to him and suggesting councilling? It really would help!
If he doesnt want to go to councilling, then perhaps you should discuss something that may put a rocket up his arse, the fact that you feel neglected, feel that he is possibly cheating and the fact that you have considered leaving him. This normally gets the brain focused!
You have to do it sooner, rather than later because if you dont, the depression really will set in, and it can be very difficult to get out of.
You are a hot blooded woman and deserve to have your needs met, and having him lounge around looking at other woman, its not fair and not moral either.
He married you because he is supposed to love you, well he aint showing much love now is he!!!
Speak to him and make your decisions! But make sure that whatever you decide to do, YOU DO!!!! Follow through otherwise he will think that he can do it again in a few months and you'll just do as he pleases again!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): hello babe well the best thing to do is really speak to him if you don't confrontt yor feelings then your just depressing yourself to be honest i suggest you talk to him and if this doesn't change anything then you have no optio but o leave him i assure you he'll come back running to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): The question that comes to my mind is, What was your relationship like in those 5 years before you got married?There must of been something in those 5 years that waved the red flag in your mind. I don't think that you were clueless, But just did't want to see that other side of his nature. Hey! you did't get married , You got enslaved, thats the way that I see it. Also he has Porno-Addiction. And he dosen't need your sexy body,when he can get his kicks on Web-66. RUN, RUN, RUN.
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