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writes:My boyfriend and I split up a while ago due to arguments.I really love him and want him back. My friends have said to ignore him which I have done for the entire week. And through out week he has sent me a few messages asking me out to movies and saying he wants me. have I made a mistake by ignore him? And if not should I carry on ignoring him or ask him to meet up with me? Thanks for your help x
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (12 February 2013):
Not getting along with someone is a good reason to not be with them. If you want to get back with him then something has to change or you'll start arguing again.
To your question: ignoring him was a good idea, however you shouldn't completely ignore him. Give him a little bait so that he'll bite and you can reel him back in.
For instance, "Do you want to go to the movies?" should be replied with something like "I'm too busy right now." or "Maybe another time."
Make him feel slightly rejected, make him feel like he'd go out of his way to get back with you. If he thinks you're just sitting by your phone waiting for him to call he's not going to be very enthusiastic about getting back together.
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reader, when nothing goes right go left +, writes (12 February 2013):
 I think that you both need to sit down and have a good talk about what you both want. Because there are obviously issues that csused you to split up so you need to decide together if its worth having a relationship.
And if you both want to then it is a good idea to try and identify the issues and then talk about how you could fix them. And if you decide to split up then you need to end contact because otherwise it will be impossible to move on.
Hope this helps.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 February 2013):
 you say you split up a while ago... when did you split up?
then you say you have ignored him for the entire week... what made you suddenly ignore him for the week. what was your rationale for ignoring him? was it to get him back or for you to heal and move forward?
have you been in contact with him over the course of the break up?
why do you think getting back with him now will work when you fought so much before you broke up with
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