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writes:Hi. father of my baby give excuses when i ask him when are we going to make love. Our baby has 9 months since then i had never made love and sometime i get horny when i just look at him. he does'nt kiss me unless i ask for a kiss. its killing me to see man of my dream not responding to my needs. sometimes i think of cheating him but for the sake of my love to him i can't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Hi Hun,
I have heard that sometimes this can happen, After a child is born the father no longer see's the mother as a sexual partner as she is now a mother, Now Im not saying this is the case here but it could be a possibility that you could try and put to him as this may need counselling to sort out, After saying that I feel he should talk with you about why this is happening as you will feel undesirable and will get very down love. So counselling is an opption anyway as this cant continue..My second husband was like this but he was not right full stop so I no how you feel and its really not nice hunny, If he wont go for counselling with you then you should get some support for you to keep your confidence going..If you need someone to talk to at anytime please feel free to message me I will help in anyway I can ok love TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2007): Well I think it is very mean and immature for a husband who is supposed to be your best friend to conceal his feelings from you especially when it comes to something so important as having sex. I mean most guys want to please their wives and make them happy. But he is being a jerk. Not only because he is not doing his 'job' but also because he won't tell you why. Who knows why?? I mean it could be something very shallow such as him not feeling attracted to you after the birth. Maybe your body changed or your chemistry changed (you smell differently). That is possible. Women change like that after giving birth. But even if it was something like that, he is your husband and he should help you and help make things better. And he should love you no matter what. There is no excuse, in my opinion. So he is just showing you that he is very immature and I don't think he is being a good husband/friend/confidant at all. Well, what I suggest you do is STOP talking to him, make yourself a bit more mysterious, and try to work out and be healthy and maybe get your figure back, and try to be fabulous. You are a mother but you are still young and you should try to keep being young and cute and take care that you look good all the time and smell good and get a haircut and buy yourself some cute dresses and just keep acting young and fruitful. Read a book. I don't know just keep yourself cool. This alone will do wonders for your self esteem. I have seen women kind of neglect themselves after giving birth. Don't fall into that pattern. You just keep trying to make yourself fabulous. Worry about that for now. As for him, hopefully he will come around.
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