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writes:hey well i got a bit of a problem and im not sure wat to do.. me and my gf have been goin out for 4 months or so now (long distance) and she has been very very ill for about 2 months and she finds it difficult to have long conversations and she has distanced herself from me and her friends. This does hurt me and i have asked her if she wants me to leave her alone bt she doesnt want tht.. she wants to properly re build herself by being distant with everyone. ive been going up and down with my emotions thinking wat is happening with her.. she doesnt pick up wen i ring but i think that is her genuinely not aware that her phone is going off. i really like her but i dont think she cares about me cos if she did then she wouldnt distance herself frm me? my friends and family have been saying to leave her.. but i feel a little stuck.. can anyone help me? Reply to this Question
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reader, jjfcc0909  +, writes (19 January 2009):
I do not believe you should leave her. People handle with stress and problems in their lives differently. Just because you and some of your family and friends do not exactly understand why she is distancing herself from you and you arent sure as to why does not mean it is uintentional. I think you are correct when you say you think it is for her to rebuild herself up. I know last winter I was terribly sick for a month and no one really knew what was wrong with me. I still loved and cared for my boyfriend but I frankly had bigger things to worry about. Give her time and space and she will come around. Long distance relationships CAN work. My boyfriend live 12 hours away from me and although we have some unresolvd problems that im not sure will ever be solved we overcame everything and accepted that there are some things the other one of us simply cant handle and now were engaged/
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