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*laire-kelly
writes:I am 27 years old, i am with a lad who is 26 i have been with him for two and a half years. i love him and want to have a child but we need to go to the fertility as he has had a illness in the past which could make him infertile but since i told him he has started smoking cannabis and wont stop he wont go for help for this and wont listen to my concerns and just shouts at me all the time when i try to speak to him i dont really no what to do as dont want to leave him as i do have strong feelings for this guy. what can i do about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, Claire-kelly +, writes (22 January 2010):
Claire-kelly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi
thank you for the advice you have gave me. I have had so many thoughts going through my head in the last month. After i posted my concern on here i spoke with my partner and got some sence out of him and he said he would go to the clinic. He promised me he would stop the canabis and he even chucked some away but tonight he has had his mates round and they have all been smoking I was out at work and found out when igot home.
We have planned to get married in october this year. Its not that i want to he a baby now its just i want to no for the future and if we need medical help what we need and just to get advice really. i no we need to have test done which is why i want the canabis to stop. i new he smoked it before but it was just every now and then it was yery rare. but now its every day. I have told him that if he is not ging to stop then i will call the wedding off and we will be finished as having children is what i have always wanted. I have a 6 year old little girl already and he is great with her she calls him dad and he refers to her as daughter when speaking about her. I just dont no i am getting mixed messages from him all the time i really love him an would not want to loose him. Buti also no i can not staywith smeone whois not intressed in what i want. But at thesame time i dont want to hurt the child i have aswel as she adores him.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 January 2010):
He isn't interested in having kids. Make a decision. Live with a man who doesn't listen, doesn't want kids and prefers cannabis, or move on. He's not ready and interested, and he wont' change. You need to be brave and make the right decision for YOU. Think carefully about what you want from life.
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