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writes:first of all im married for 26 yrs with 2 children my marrage is good my husband loves me and i love him about 2 and a half years ago i met someone on line he to is married and has 4 children. we started emailing it didnt take long befor we began talking on the phone and that became every single day thruout the day and when we couldnt talk we would tex each other. we both wanted to be connected . it wasnt long until he told me he loved me i was afraid to admit that i was feeling the same way for him. but i knew i was. the first year of our relationship there was alot of guilt knowing we were doing the wrong thing i was always torn but the thought of losing him was just as bad. he is a wonderful sweet guy. very romantic and loving he always puts me on a pedastal and tells me im beautiful he has taught me how to pamper myself and that i should always feel good about myself he tells me all the time how much he loves me and that im the one for him. he has told me things he could never tell his wife hes tried a few times and she thinks hes weird and blows him off. she hasnt much interest in sex or trying anything new. as far as my husband as much as i love him and hes a great guy there are things i need from him i want to be romanced and made to feel pretty and the passion i feel with this guy. my heart was broken a month ago his wife found out and made him promise not to talk to me ever again. well we email each other and if he can get to them he replys which is most often but the phone calls are far and few between.he says he still loves me and he always will but he cant lose his family that thats all he has i understand completely because all along we both said and knew we loved our spouses. yet had fallin in love with each other. my heart is totally broken i cry all the time i miss him terrably and hate everyday that goes by that we cant talk. i know i m so wrong and a terrable person to do this to my husband and to another woman. i dont know what to do there are days im good the it hits me and when it does its like a ton of bricks my heart aches for him i feel if it were my husband who found out that i somehow would have to have more contact then we are having now. i dont know what to do
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reader, Cheater32 +, writes (4 November 2008):
 I can understand that this is a hard thing and confusing. I myself am in your shoes and feel that pain of caring for someone outside of you're marriage and cant see them or be with them. I had an affair that lasted 2 years. I completely ended it last week and i have missed him ever since. I often think about how HURT AND UPSET AND BROKEN my husband would feel. It's a really cruel thing to do and it took me 2 years to realize it. I work with this man which makes it worse. I have to tell you the pain will get easier. Focus on your husband and the love you once had. I know its hard i have been on here with the same questions. It does get easier. It just hurts when you miss someone that you were so close to on a daily basis. Please feel free to contact me privately if you want,Take Care
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