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anonymous
writes:hey,a guy recently confessed that he has been in love with me for around four years and that he never had the guts to ask me out because i was in a relationship during that period. the guy is very cute and i just cant get how he has loved me for so long because though many think i have very exotic looks, i just don't believe the probability of him being in love with me for so long. anyways, since he confessed this, he has become very remote towards me. he still flirts and tells me how hot i am and all that but since i started expressing some interest, he has backed off a little.what is going on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): Don't listen to that voice of self-doubt. If the guy's telling you he's in love with you, then... he's in love with you, end of story! As to why he's suddenly backed off a little, it could be down to self-consciousness. I mean, for four long years he's harboured these feelings for you in secret, but now, since revealing them, he knows that you know too. That can make some people feel a bit shy (I know from personal experience). Not to mention he might not be entirely sure how you've taken the news; you say you've "started expressing some interest" but perhaps he's waiting for a more definite indication of your feelings for him, looking for signs that will leave him in no doubt either way. It all depends on how *you* feel about this guy. If you could see yourself getting into a relationship with him then let him know - verbally if necessary. Men are more straightforward creatures than us girls, and often don't pick up on subtle hints etc. Or if you'd prefer to get to know him better and would rather keep things platonic for now, then make that clear too. The ball's in your court. What you choose to do with it is entirely up to you, but whatever you do decide be sure to fill him in :)Good luck and take care x
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