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writes:So I am unable to have sex with my boyfriend of 6 years for the time being due to medical problems being looked at. As a result, I also came off the contraceptive pill because it was giving me migraines and it seemed like the best time to come off it. Since these two events, I have started to have a lot of dreams about other men, cheating etc (I would never actually cheat).D Do we think this is just due to a change in hormones (and maybe an increase in libido after coming off the pill) and a lack of sex causing this? I feel like I should be dreaming about my boyfriend though! It is always men I know!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 November 2014):
 Birth control pills prevent pregnancy through several mechanisms, mainly by stopping ovulation. When you went OFF the pill your ovulation cycle started back up, which means you now have the "other" time of the month where there's a surge and peak in estrogen, which CAN increase libido in a woman.
MANY women get a little extra "horny" at ovulation time. Some get easier to anger, easier to cry and well... some get hornier.
Welcome to the world of women's hormones...
So yes, I think it's a combination of coming off the pill and ... no sex. And since you are in a committed relationship the fantasies are about cheating, because..... you fantasize of other men then JUST your mate/partner/SO. Pretty normal too. YOU don't have a say really, in WHOM you dream about. It doesn't mean YOU want to cheat. Just that your body and mind are thinking "SEX!!".
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2014): Sexual fantasy and reality often have nothing to do with one another. In most instances, the acts we fantasize about are precisely the ones we will not do in real life and we wouldn't do them in real life because our fantasy already confirmed to us that it is wrong. So you are normal.
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