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writes:I need help. My ex and I of 3 years broke up in dec. She started dating a highschool friend immediately after. We continued talking, hooked up a few times 3 months later, talked about getting back together and "hung out" multiple times between then and may. She even said she still loved me and wasn't over me in may too. Weeks later, before we were going to dinner ahe sent me a text (for the second time) that we shouldn't talk again, she is in a relationship with that same guy now. We haven't talked since although I have seem her around. I never feel sad or jealous when I see the two of them, but thinking that she is with someone else drives me crazy. Normally I feel pretty good, sometimes I miss her and I think about her often, but occasionally it's pretty hard. I feel like I should be stronger by now. I think what really kills me is how I feel like I never meant anything. I mean, she never dated or anything (I knew them both for years and there was nothing between them till all of a sudden. Do I need help? Shouldn't I be a little more over her by now. I still miss her and still feel like we are a great fit together. Why am I struggling to move on? (broke up bc of time issues, I started law school, love between us was strong)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Something isn't right because you still love her. Boys and their 'pride'.. but I would call it foolishness. You're stubborn and I wouldnt be surprised if that was one of the breakup reasons. Remember that Its hard living with regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everyone,
I have made new friends, gotten out even dated many girls. 90% of the time I feel fine, and happy with my life, but I always feel like something just isn't right. Its only every now and then that I miss her. I don't feel like contacting her is a good idea, she is in a relationship (rebound or not). I guess I just don't want to put myself back out there again to her after I feel like I have been burned twice. I want her back, but I don't, it's kind of a pride thing. I think she would have to be the one to contact me again, I just can't do it when it was her who made the decision to stop talking for her new bf (right after she told me she wasn't over me).
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reader, Cccc  +, writes (5 October 2010):
 DUDE!
Its not easy and thats why they call it True love especially if you went a full year without seeing her?
By the way for how long where you dating?
If it was say 2 years + then she on rebound no doubt and it wont last.Next time they break USE the opportunity to get her back but remember! Never take a girl back more then once.
The problem with the whole rebound thing is if the guy is good with his words he can keep her there for a long time but it wont last.Atleast not in my opinion.
GO ON DATES!
Go Party! Socialize as much as possible...Even if you dont want to hook up with woman at least have some form of FEMALE contact !
Heres a good scenario for you. which works well for 2 reasons.
Youre always better off. Work your ass off to get over her! I say this because rebounds fail when the person whos on rebound sees the other ones over him/her.Also if youre over her you can maybe get her back but this time shes not going to mess around with you cause you no longer "Need her" as you can do fine without her OR
If you dont get her back youre OVER her anyway so what does it matter?
Anyway my 2 cents!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): If you dated for three years, broke up for timing issues, and still love her almost an entire year later then win her back dude. She must be smokin to still be on your mind that much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): Well it sounds like you have definitely separated yourself from her for a long time, yet you still have very strong feelings towards her. This could mean that you two are meant to be and your relationship just had bad timing, which makes sense because you said that was your reason for breaking up. If you haven't gotten out there to meet new people, then do that first. Otherwise consider contacting her to catch-up and see how things go from there. Her rebound relationship may not be enough to keep her from you and she will realize the mistake of going separate ways when you both were such a great fit.
It takes some time to get over people, but it could also mean that you don't need to because there is still hope. Give it a shot if you still love her so you won't regret it later. If not then move on by doing new things with new people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2010): It's hard to get over someone you really cared about so no you're not strange. The best thing to do is seperate yourself a bit from her and try to develop a new social life with new people.
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