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writes: i have a question about my relationship and the sex i've been with my girl for 1 year and 9 months we are planning to get married and we've already had lots of sex the past summer but she wants to stop being intimate and we've haven't had intercourse for about 7 months now and i'm not sure if we can hold till marriage cause we already get very aroused rather quickly and since the sex has stopped it caused some problems in our relationship. So my question should we wait or will our lack of intercourse tear us apar? Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (17 April 2011):
 So heavy petting before marriage and future goals and love and all that stuff. Sounds like you just needed to hear your thoughts. I guess you're in for the long haul.
All I can suggest now is cold showers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know most of you think we're too young for marriage and i understand that but the way we are planning our future is far from just 'oh lets just get married' kinda mindset. We are planning small goals in order to reach our main goal of marriage. But the whole sex thing leans a little towards her being religious i know it may sound weird that she chooses now to abstain from sex but when we were intimate the feeling was so amazing and it wasn't just sex it was love we were making love the emotion was always very high when we had intercourse and both of us were extremely happy. But since we've stopped there has been some distance between us she shows no affection no kisses no hugs i know she's not the lovey dovey type that being said when we were being intimate she would show more affection. the only time she takes interest in being cuddly is when we have foreplay mainly just me fingering her.
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reader, cupidus +, writes (16 April 2011):
Too young for marriage, Don't you think?You've already set some ground rules and she's changed them.personally sex is a major ground rule as is loyalty.But she's changed the ground rules and I'd have to hear some very substantial reasons for it. She's taken control of the RS through sexuality. This would be a huge red flag for me.I'd be thinking "What other things is she going to set in stone" If the balance is thrown off now, I be second guessing my future.
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