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writes:I have this problem.I started dating a coworker when we started working together,he was just getting over a divorce.We had a relationship for two years and right before I go for a family visit he was telling me about his plans for us and talking about children,....3 weeks later when I was on vacation outside the country we had a fight on phone and he broke up with me right then.When I came back he wouldn't talk to me for a week so i gave him space for a week but since we are coworkers I had to talk to him so I started a conversation and he asked to be friends and we started hanging out(only two of us) although I try not to be in contact with his friends and family.He asked us to have an open relationship that I accepted since I still loved him.He got really weird after a while and stopped coming to my place or hang out with me.now again he doesn't talk to me.I'm just sick of his childish behavior.We work in the same room,I have to see him every day and I'm just tired of his games.The reason he broke up with me was he said he doesn't love me anymore.What should I do?should I insist on staying friends?He never calls me or anything.I'm just so confused.How should I handle this situation?
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (20 November 2009):
 open relationships are just an excuse to use and abuse people.The 'lets be friends" thing after a relationship is also very difficult to maintain.You would be better off just accepting the relationship is not happening and revert to being a pleasant co worker, if he finds he wants more after that let him work for it!
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reader, manaja  +, writes (19 November 2009):
Move on from it, your clearly not meant to be with each other, "open relationship" is no better than having a "f..k buddy ". Dont be too friendly with him anymore at work, treat him more like another co worker, dont listen to his rubbish when he tells you he thinks you may actually have something together when he realises your not that into him anymore...go out and find someone just for you and say goodbye to your open relationship, theres no future in that type of relationship, ok for having casual sex with other people but thats it.Let him go.
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