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*asanovaxeja
writes: So, there's this girl (i am a girl too), there is a bit of distance, but in the end, i feel that its a minor problem. Basically, this girl and i have just been talking for a few months. We realize it would be sort of hard to officially label ourselves as a couple, because of the distance, but we have everything except the label. Her and i seem to balance each other out, i genuinely like her (I've had a past where i just get with girls and forget them), and i just feel happy when we talk, so i feel this is important to me. i think that this could be love, but i dont want to rush into things (well to be honest, ive almost told her i love her on two occasions, but stopped myself). I know that in the future there is a possibility of us being together because the college i have planned on attending since i was a sophomore is near her town. Now the problem is her parents. They did not know she is attracted to girls, or would even consider dating one. Its okay right, i understand everyone comes out to their parents in their own way and own time. Well, one day, her mother found a letter she had written me, and went crazy on her. now, shes forbidden to communicate with me in any way. This is probably because of their homophobia, and their fear of her getting "off track" with whats important. the problem is, they dont even know me and im not that bad of a person. i dont do drugs, i get good grades, i got into college, im a nice person, i constantly push her to study, and try to be a good influence on her. of course she disobeys her parents, and still talks to me, even if it is less than what it used to. her parents have caught her before, and it just gets her in deeper trouble. My question(s) is, would telling her to stop talking to me and disobeying her parents be something good for our relationship? or do you think (what i want but i need some rational) we should keep disobeying her parents and still continue on our "relationship"?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 January 2010):
You are both you are, and nothing can change that. If her parents can't accept her for who she is, then that's their problem. You have to do what you both feel is right for you.
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