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writes:Hi there,A few months ago, a friend of mine introduced me to her male friend. She gave him my number a few weeks after this (she told me she was going to, not because I told her to) and a couple days later, I had a text message from him. We chatted via text message for a while and then I left it. Three weeks later (I hadn't heard from him between this time), he texted me to ask me out for a drink. I agreed and we went out. We talked for a while, played pool, etc. I felt we had a good time. At the end of the night, he walked me home. We stopped outside mine and we said goodbye. He suggested to me about going to the local pub where he is a chef for a meal but I just assumed he meant I should go for a meal, but not necessarily with him. I texted him a few days later to say how good a time I'd had and he replied within half an hour, saying how glad he was. I saw him around quite a few times after this, but we never met up again. The first time I saw him after we went for that drink, he looked at me, looked away, then turned his head back to look at me quite quickly. I said hi and he said hi back. The next few times I saw him, he made me feel as if I had done something wrong because he wouldn't look at me or speak to me.On Christmas Day, I texted everybody in the morning(including him) to say happy christmas. (I wasn't thinking about him in particular then). At about 8pm, he replied to my text message, saying thanks and happy christmas to me. He put 'love you' at the end but I dismissed that as I know he didn't mean that (he's foreign). I know from our mutual female friend he is very nice and can be quite shy, which I figured when we went for the drink.Anyway, ten minutes after he sent me that text, he phoned me to say happy christmas and asked if i was having a good day. He was really nice on the phone. With my last boyfriend, I was the one who said when we could meet up. This guy (he's 22, i'm 20, nearly 21) has already arranged to meet me (as already explained). Is it my turn to arrange the next one?Also, I have never had to play the three-day waiting game with any guys. I texted the last boyfriend to say I'd had a good time a couple hours after I got home and we lasted a long time. I don't like playing games, I prefer being honest. This guy, on the phone last night, said he would see me tomorrow (today) at the pub he works at (I didn't go because I spent time with family).Is this guy genuinely nice and should it be me that makes the next move to arrange to see him? I've never had this problem before, I just feel I havent got the confidence to make the right decision after a bad experience with an ex... Would appreciate any help!
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reader, sandra78  +, writes (27 December 2008):
By him pretty much inviting you out to his resturant, it seems he already made the next move. You didn't recipricate, so its possible he will think you are not interested. You should have called to thank him for the invatation, and explained that you had other things planned, and would be happy to see him on _____day. Then that way, he knows that you want to see him again.
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reader, doll-face +, writes (26 December 2008):
ur right about the 3 days thing...i think its stupid. you should be honest.
i dont think you HAVE to make the first move, its possible for either of you. you could suggest meeting up for another drink? or if your confidence plays up a little, start by hintin that you would like to meet up? that way, he'd be making the move, but you'd be suggesting it?!
sorry if that didnt help!
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