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writes:I have a friend who is the most sensual woman I have met (I'd do her) :) She's hot and passionate and when we go dancing she always gets hit on since she knows how to move. Now, the problem is her husband won't have any of it. He doesn't seem to realize she dyeing for need of intimacy. It can be months between "relations." I know I know more than I should, but she's reaching out. She doesn't know how to get him to love her. They've been to counseling, she would never do anything outside the bounds of her marriage vows, but it's making her crazy. I try to keep her safe when we go out. She's asking about sexual surrogacy, has come to the conclusion that certain sexual situations are OK, and "let off steam." Should she go on being sexually fringe experimental, or should she can her husband, though I don't think her religion will allow it, or should she just get a lover, as tender and caring as she is, so "live in sin" but be LOVED for once?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): How have they tried to solve their problems and how has the counseling helped to outline the issues that need their attention most? Concerning the affair, as a friend you can warn her that living a parallel life can exert much pressure on their existence and only be a temporary way of relief. If I may add, it is also common to place the entire blame on the partner in justification of our poor choices. Of course, if the relationship was once flourishing and several attempts of reviving what they had, in time result unsuccessful, it is possible that from the beginning they had unhealthy compromises or growing divergent interests, etc. The causes of marital crisis are many, some deep rooted and some possible to eradicate by simpler maneuvers. Every disease with its cure! You refer too little to the nature of their problems in order to offer more than a general outlook of this situation. I'd recommend more relationship introspection and practical work before seeking an affair that can generate equally powerful crises and come with overwhelming emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): Dude use handcuffs XP
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