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writes:I believe a woman sends my husband inappropriate emails - baiting him... She works with him seasonal 2 months of the year. He can make it so that they will not work together and I am wondering if it is wrong that I would suggest that if she works for him this year that he would be choosing her over me. Do I have the right to ask that he not have her come back to work this year with him because I feel she inappropriately sends him emails suggesting that she is bothered of his not replying back to her? He has a history of being unfaithful to begin with... and for me to see emails from her saying things like "Are you mad at me? Did I do something wrong? Why don't you respond back to me???!!!" Recently she sent him an email stating she was thrilled he asked her to come back and work for him again this year. That she loved the experience working there and that she really loved working for him!!!" "and just wanted to let him know this" Her emails always to me, seem so demanding on her baiting him for his attentions and it never seems they are "ever" work related. Suggests to me that it is his friendship she is striving for and frankly, this is making me sick... Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 December 2010):
 I agree with Walkin'. The issue here isn't this woman. If your husband hadn't been unfaithful, this woman would be insignificant. This crisis could be stopped cold by your husband by his just telling her not to email him, that he's married and that he does not want any unprofessional contact. End of story.
You shouldn't have to live with this level of distrust, and you shouldn't have to play the "goalie" in your relationship, watching out for other women and worrying that one of them will cause your husband to stray again.
If you can't trust him, leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): You say your husband has a history of being unfaithful? If this woman is sending innapropriate emails then, yes you have every right to tell him you aren't happy about him working with her.
The thing is, if you actually trusted your husband then this woman wouldn't be an issue because even if she came on to him he'd tell her to get lost. But you know your husband can't be trusted and it wouldn't matter if he did choose not to work with her, there would always be another woman you'd be worried about.
The bigger issue is, you don't trust your husband and you say yourself you know he's been unfaithful before. Forget about this woman and concentrate on your husband and whether your marriage is going to work because that's the real problem not some woman sending him emails.
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